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writes:hey guys i dont even like posting as i feel im bothering you with my problems but i need someone to talk to as i feel so down. im 35-im stuck in a dead end job-stuck in a debt management programme thanks to my grasping ex who left me in 50k of debt which im paying back. i have only a few good friends-one hasnt spoke to me in months and the other has recently had a child and we do see each other sporadically but she has a tendancy to snap. i have little self worth and no confidence-maybe its things that have happened to me to make me this way. im very negative and critical and dont feel as though im worth being around. a guy at work i thought was a friend just friended me to get ahead with my help and borrowed money which i never saw again. i know im a good person and would help anyone but i feel noone cares or has any time for me.at work im a high performer yet my manager criticizesme at every opportunity. im stuck as i have very few qualificationsbut dont have the money to study and cant get help as my salary is good but is swallowed by paying this debt back. im having to live at home at my mums for now and i just feel so down. i cant see a way forward and just feel so desolate and isolated. please can anyone give me some advice i would be so grateful. thankyou for listening to me :(
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reader, glassblower  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 Never apologize for asking for help. We want to help you. Honey you sound very sad and depressed. What you need is to go out and find something new to do. Cook, paint, volunteer as MissEleanor said, and see what's going on in your area! You are bound to make new friends and find a way to turn a hobby into a lucrative business. Best of luck!! xoxo glassblower
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reader, czar2k4ever +, writes (22 October 2010):
Man don't beat yourself up dude. You're obviously a good person going through alot right now. Don't panic about your situation I know exactly what you're going through. Life is very cruel at times but you have to keep fighting and try to get back on track. Again everything will work out eventually. Good luck my friend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): It sounds like you enjoy the type of work that you do, but your boss is a jerk. I would try to find another company to work for. I would then get involved in a hobby or something that you really enjoy. Even better if this hobby would be a 2nd job go help you earn more money. Try to get excited about changing your life. Happy people seem to make more friends. You have the power to control your life; make it a happy life.
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reader, MissEleanor +, writes (22 October 2010):
First of all, get some confidence back! From your post, you seem both intelligent and kind. We all need some sort of aim in life - perhaps you could try voluntary work in your local area? You seem to have had a hard time, and you could be depressed, so talking to your doctor may be a good idea. There are also many online, free university courses if you want to get more qualifications, but if not, as I already mentioned, voluntary work can be fun, inspirational and fulfilling.
I have had a fair experience in mental health problems (that left me hospitalised, and I'm only just 14) and my best advice would be seeing a doctor, just to make sure your physical health isn't being affected by your mental state.
Keep Strong,
MissEleanor x
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