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writes:Okay, so I've got this issue, but I don't really know how to explain it so I'll just try my best. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and these feelings have developed more and more over that time. We're both very clever people, both targeted A* in all our GCSE's, but I get very very jealous, to the point that I've become very insecure. We usually get around the same points in tests but if he gets a better mark I get incredibly jealous, kind of mad inside, not with him though, with myself. He has a very good general knowledge which makes me really inferior. It's got so bad my mind takes over, I think his parents think I'm stupid and that they hate me, but I know they don't. However my feelings make me very wary of how I act and what I say around them, which has apparently made them think I don't like them! I know I don't need to have these feelings but I just can't stop my mind, it's controlling me. I'm jealous, but I have nothing to be jealous of, he's not more intelligent than me, so what's wrong with me, why do I feel like this? PS. It's nothing he's purposefully doing so breaking up with him is not an option.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou so much LittleMissy! You've made me feel a lot better :)
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reader, LittleMissy +, writes (21 February 2011):
A little competition is healthy but it sounds like your suffering from low self esteem. Your clever, you dont have to be smarter than him everytime to keep him. You'll go far in life whether he occasionally scores better or not! And I'm sure there's something your good at which he's not!!
As for his parents, be yourself. Their son likes you so why wouldn't they. If you come across as cold and unfriendly then they may think you are like that with their son, I'm sure they'd prefer a warm and sociable girlfriend who may occasionally say something silly, but thats ok, it shows your human!
Your a smart, beautiful person who can get any guy you want just the way you are, no need to impress anybody, no need to be better than them!
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