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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together a year, and in all we've been pretty good together, up until recently I've been feeling that we've lost something between us, I love him so much and I don't know what I'd honastyly do without him, yet my own thoughts and feelings seem to be getting in the way. He always points out how sexy other girls are but doesn't seem to really say how I look, when to be honest I don't think he appriciates me as much as I feel he should. When were together it's usually the same repetative thing; we watch tv, we talk slightly, maybe have abit of fun and then have sex. I just feel we've lost what we had and it's slowly fading away when its not the right time. We only really have sex when he wants to and today when I tried to initiate it all he said was he'd rather watch footy then have a wank when he got home. I mean, yeah it was in a jokey way, but you have no idea how much it hurt me. I'm mad with him yet I'm mad with myself, I have no confidence when it comes to my body no matter how many complements I get, nothing matters, I constantly criticize myself as I don't have anything WOW about myself, i'm almost completley flat chested and I don't have a "typically" nice face, its only the slap that makes a difference and its really affecting our relationship, mainly on my behalf. I don't know how to be sexy in the way he wants, i don't know how to gain the confidence to take the lead and be in control when we have sex and I don't know what to do to make him understand the way he sometimes makes me feel. I'm scared one day he's just going to realise and leave me and I'm scared of being left again. I know how much he truly loves me but it's only a matter of time before he gets bored with me, isn't it?Okay, so there's a million things going on in my head right now so i'l leave it at that before I go too far.advice please ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): your bfs a sad guy
bfs are suposed to make you feel amazing about yourself and put you first
that what my one does :)
you should get one that does for you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno i was greatful for your answer, it just sounded slightly patronising which tbh you had the right to be.
anyways, i feel rate bad now but cheers for you advice.
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reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (2 April 2009):
 hey..sorry if you felt that way, but as i was no where near trying to judge you, i was just trying to pass out my opinion with examples
sorry if it came across me judging you, as i said im around the same age as you and been in something similar to that so i know how you feel
-sorry
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (2 April 2009):
hey..sorry if you felt that way, but as i was no where near trying to judge you, i was just trying to pass out my opinion with examples
sorry if it came across me judging you, as i said im around the same age as you and been in something similar to that so i know how you feel
-sorry
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply i got, but thats the reason i hate coming on this site for advice; all i get is patronised, you can't judge me on what i do, i've heard the lecture a million times, yeah you made some good points but it hasn't really helped me, more just annoyed me. Sorry, i know this is your opinion on the matter which i appriciate but your can't instantly judge me just because i'm age 13-15.
Anyways, thanks still i'l try to take some of it on board.
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (1 April 2009):
Okay your 13-15, so am i and you shouldn't be having sex at this age..you should be out there having funn with your friends...as you can see a relationship can really f-up your emotions since your bofriend is immature and doesnt treat you the way he should......
Your relationship shouldn't be based on sex.....you two shouldn't even be a t that stage yet....it should be based on love,trust ,and honesty, going out on dates having funn, friends and just beu=ying with each other...
if he does something that hurts tell him that what he said really hurt you-communicate-
i suggest yo uget out of the relationship if you are still unhappy, should be out their having funn, and the future you'll find the one for you (trail and error)
because this guy's a real jerk saying "he'd rather watch footy and have a wank later..." that guy does not deserve you, but if you continue to ahave sex with him, always use a condom
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