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writes:I'm a teenager and I have this... I guess you could call it crush on someone that I don't want have a crush on! My brain and my emotions are telling me two completely different things and I hate it. I know that he's a jerk and I know that he's the type of guy that I would never date in a million years, yet I can't stop the butterflies in my stomach when ever I see him or stop my heart from pounding when he gets close.I stopped being around him for a while, and the feelings went away. Finally, when I thought I was over him, he came back and now, its even worse. He rides my bus and has a class with me now, and whereas at first, I could just ignore him and get on with whatever I was doing, now I'm starting to do and say things that I wouldn't say otherwise and it ends up making me feel like a fool. I know that I'm a teenager and that this is a phase that will eventually pass, but I need to know when and whats the easiest way to deal with it. I've tried rejecting my feelings, and that *really* didn't work, and then I tried accepting it but never acting on it, but that hasn't worked, either. And there's no way I'm confronting him about it, as we live in polar opposite worlds. Its pulling me apart and I'm on wits end here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): ...I had a crush on this woman at work. Asked her out, got rejected and she hasn't looked at me since. Probably just as well - she knows full well that I'm better looking and sexier than her current boyfriend! I even heard her breathing rapidly in a conversation she started with me once - obviously very attracted to me, as am I to her. Hey ho! My advice to you is just to take each day as it comes. The intense feelings of emotion will pass eventually. You can see the wood from the trees - that's good. Sometimes, if you're in pain because you have a crush then you are coming up against their defences. Think about that one then. Try and focus instead on an attractive guy who you can talk to very easily - conversational flow being key to sexual chemistry and attraction. Learn from my mistakes: never ever has a woman I've had a crush on been willing to have a single date with me - they sense the neediness and that turns them off. Why don't you try being friends with him instead?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): I had that same situation before too!!! What I did was I just acted like he didn't exist at all. That helped me, and now I don't feel a thing for him. The other thing you could do is you could tell a friend or someone you really trust. I hope that I was helpful!
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