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*injalove
writes:Ok I love both of those boy's very much so and I feel like shit for cheating on my boyfriend...He;s a sweet man and he shouldn't have to deal with me doing that I know.But I told my ex today that I never want it to happen again because I felt like total shit and I love my boyfriend.I'm not going to do it again it was my first and last I didn't like it and it made me feel like shit.Me and my boyfriend are happy together so I don't know what made have sex with my ex.(it could be because he have me the best sex of my life and I enjoy every moment of it)And the fact that I love him and still want to be with him but it's never going to happen again.So I'm moving on and I love the guy I'm with I really do because if I didn't I wouldn't be sitting hear pretty much ripping my heart out and hopping someone will shot me.No one can say I don't love him(well you can say it doesn't mean it isn't true).I wouldn't spend over 8 hours at his work if I didn't love him and want to spend time together.He's the first guy I've ever trust as fast as I started trusting him.I do love him.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (10 April 2008):
 You dont really have a question here that you want us to coment on. What I see is you going through a rant because of your unhappiness and you are trying to make yourself feel better. You justify your cheating by saying sex with this man is the best you have ever had and you still love him and want to be with him, as if that somehow makes your actions acceptable. It seems to me that you would like very much for someone on here to say its ok, that it is so understandable why you did that. Then you go on to say how much you love your current boyfriend. But the way you state everything sounds more like you are trying to convince yourself that you love him, not that you actually do.
What you did was wrong and you know that. But I think that you really need to sit down and examine your feelings and desires and goals regarding these two men. This may be a sign that the situation you are in is not the right one for you.
Years ago my current boyfriend was dating a woman. He cared very much for her, but was not in love with her and was kind of waiting for the relationship to end. Then he met the woman of his dreams. Instead of doing things the right way and breaking up with his girlfriend, he cheated on her. She found out, had a fit, broke up with him, wanted him back ~ oh! the whole big mess. He felt so bad at having hurt this wonderful woman so much he spent the next 3 years trying to make it up to her and let the woman of his dreams slip through his fingers. She waited for him for quite a while, but eventually ended up marrying the man she was engaged to when she met my boyfriend. (Yeah, they were both doing shitty things, her even more so I think) He still wasnt in love with his girlfriend and had no intention of ever marrying her, but his guilt caused him to miss out on being with his true love.
So think about it a bit. Are you going to be with this man out of guilt for what you did? Or do you truly love him? It may be that neither of these guys are the one for you. But I would rather see you hurt this man now, get it over with and let him move on, than prolong the relationship and the pain when there is no hope and it is just to assuage your own guilt.
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reader, dan.1  +, writes (10 April 2008):
the only way to make ur self feel better is tell him. because u see him you feel really bad so talk to him and tell him and explain it wont happen again and reasure him and the out come would be up 2 him. you have got to tell him its not fair on him
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