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writes: Been with my man for a while. I know that there are so many other girls out there. Ones that are smarter, funnier and more outgoing than me. I think I get scared that he's going to find another girl. I always get this nasty feeling in my stomach whenever I think about him being with someone else. Even just to be around them. I feel sick when I see girls that look better than me and I think "he probably notices them and checks them out" .... i duno.. i don't like that feeling it gives me. What am I to do about this???? Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (21 February 2007):
 What you are lacking is confidence in yourself! He chose YOU, not them! What you see as good looking won't necessarily appeal to someone else. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! Do you trust him? Has he ever went off with anyone else before? If the answer to this is no then he's unlikely to do it. YOU need to assert yourself more. Men hate needy women, they like their women to be assertive, confident and bubbly, they find that attractive so come on, no more worries or jealous feelings about him going off with anyone else. You are much better than these other girls, you are special, unique in your own right and he chose YOU!
Here are 2 links for you to have a look at to help you. One is to get your confidence back and the other it to see just how high/low your self esteem is at the moment (and how to work on it to improve it if it's rather low.)
http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence
http://www.selfesteem4women.com/index.php
You're obviously feeling a bit insecure about yourself at the moment but you can fix that with the help of these links I gave you. Just remember, you are as good (if not better) as anyone out there. Tell yourself your boyfriend is lucky to have YOU! Enjoy your time with him, always try and look good as this will boost your confidence and always remember... it's YOU he's with, because you are unique and special! :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): You can't be every woman in the world, but you can be proud of yourself. Do you think he worries about whether a better looking man might take you away? Probably not because he knows you love him. I expect he feels lucky. What will turn him off however, is picking up the vibe that you consider yourself unworthy. There is nothing much more off-putting than someone who has no pride in themselves. If you place no value on yourself why should he? Try making these pictures in your head:1 Imagine you on your knees in front of him pleading with him to love you and looking around nervously and tearfully in case he is watching for someone else. Most of your time is spent looking for prettier women, at his face to see where his eyes are, or at the floor.2 Now imagine standing by his side with your arm through his, looking to the future across a sea of people some of whom are attractive, some not, all sorts. You are both looking out to the horizon where there are beautiful hills and sunshine. You can smile into each other's faces. That is where you are aiming.Now which is the most attractive example?!
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