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writes: In the last three days my girlfriend has been unfair, in my opinion. I was with her Monday evening and she got a phone call from her dad at half 9ish and she said she had to go home to see her cousin who she hadn't seen in a year and because she had bought her some clothes. And my parents had to take her back and she was really intent on getting back before half 10. I felt as though I came second best.Then on Tuesday I asked if I was going to be seeing her and she said "I'm going to the gym, then back to my mates, then I'm gunna rest in the evening". So I took it as a 'no'. Then today we were supposed too be seeing each other and I cancelled going out to see her but she had to go and help her dad cut some trees down at her nan's house miles away. She said she would be back at 2, however she was not back at 2 and was back at 5:30 ish and said that she was too tired and messy too see me and she wouldn't 'be very good company' etc...And I totally feel second best!!?
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 If it were three MONTHS I would tell you one thing. But as it has only been three days then maybe you need to chat with her directly and voice your concerns.
If you are complaining on this forum only, then it appears that you are avoiding a confrontation with your girlfriend. This means that you are liable to start doing some passive-aggressive crap that will definitely put off your girlfriend.
Bottom line: Engage in direct communication with your gal. A strong relationship is based on trust and honesty.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAhhh maybe I am then, i don't want too see her 24/7 i dnt mind if she wants too do somthing else one day i just feel gutted about not seeing her, i kno she genuinly loves me etc and is mad on me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): Hi, To be honest i dont think you should be feeling second best. Your Girlfriend may just be wanting to spend some time with her family and friends. Talk to her and explain how you are feeling and try and sort things out.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 i feel that you are being a tad too selfish, your girfriend seems to have genuine reasons for not seeing you, and i think also that maybe she just wants a bit of space - could it be that you are wanting to be with her 24/7?? By not coming back at 2 o'clock like she said she would maybe wasnt her fault, if she was relying on her dad for the lift could it be possible that it was his fault she was late? Talk to your girlfriend about it so that it doesnt eat you up anymore.
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