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writes:i feel sad because no one loves me. every time i see a perfect couple, i think in my head," will that ever be me? No it cant be." and then i start tearing. there is also this guy that i like. i have told him that i love him, but he never told me if he loved me back. and that just makes me think that he doesnt like me. i have NEVER been in a relationship before and i have liked so many guys, but since i thought they never liked me, i just ave up.i think im just a mistake. i sometimes just think that no guy that i like will ever like me and that makes me feel depressed. i feel lonley. no one will ever love me. :'(
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reader, coughcough  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 I believe everyone has longed for love at some point in their lives. I've learned through years of experience that love is a patient thing. Don't go looking for it. When you do, and you will, meet a potential lover take things slow. Believe in yourself that you are worthy of love. Believe that love will find you and in the meantime, love yourself. Confidence is always attractive. Once you learn that you are worthy of love when you find it you'll have the confidence to make balanced decisions. So many people fall short of themselves because they settle for the first thing that comes along. If you're suffering to the point of giving up, then seek help. There's plenty of people who would love to help you.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 I think you are suffering from depression and it is distorting your perception of the world. There is no such thing as the 'perfect couple'...the key is to find someone who you find attractive but also have a relationship based on a great friendship. You won't find that unless you sort out your mood disorder. You cannot love someone else until you learn to love yourself. You have to just accept that no-one can make you happy, you have got to do that for yourself. It is also a dangerous thing to enter into relationships where your mood is entirely dependent on being with another person. Extreme emotional dependency can be draining on the partner. As for the boy you expressed love for...you probably don't know him enough to love him. He is just someone in your community who you have singled out as the solution to your feelings of sadness. People usually express love after they have been dating for a while and have got to know each other in detail. It can be hard to distinguish between a teen crush based on a desire for a boyfriend and lust, and real love which is based on something rather more in-depth. I think if you believe no-one will ever love you then they won't, or you will meet someone who preys on your vulnerability for their own selfish aims. You have to have self confidence and self esteem to have a happy dating relationship. This is because it is rarely perfection and you have to be resilient enough to say no to bad behaviour from boys. I think you should talk to your school counsellor or a trusted adult like your doctor about how you are feeling. Teenage depression is very common and can be treated. It is a medical condition like any other and treatment with medication and specialist counselling could offer you so much more quality of life.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Hi hun. I understand what you're going through. When I was your age I felt the same. I really wanted someone to love, but I was really shy and awkward at the time(not saying you are) so nothing romantic happened for me until I was 17. When I was 17 I suddenly got a lot more confidence in myself and decided to just get out there and have fun meeting people. Then I met my first serious boyfriend and since then things have generally been ok for me. But I know how lonely it is when you really want a boyfriend, especially when you've neve had one before.
What I'm trying to say is, don't think "no one will ever love me", that is simply not true. The furture is completely unwritten, so ANYTHING can happen, right? But IF you tell yourself no one will ever love you, you'll start to believe it. When you believe something, in your world it's true, so even if somebody DID want to love you, either you wouldn't notice or they wouldn't ever tell you because of the way you feel about yourself.
If you want someone to love you, you have to believe you are lovable and be lovable. You have to be loving and caring to other people, then people will see that you're a lovely person and want to get to know you better.
I know it's hard hun, but try to just get on with your life and try not to think too much about wanting a boyfriend, because when you are really happy in your own life, you will meet someone special. So go have fun with your friends and enjoy being a teenager!
Good luck :)
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