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writes:This probably sounds really stupid. But, I feel really rejected. I feel like nobody evr wants me around, and that everyone is always plotting against me, and giving me bad school marks on purpose, because they don't like me. I don't really get on with my parents that well, and it always seems like they aren't interested in me and my life, because they never help me through things which I need help with in my life, they have even tried to convince me that it is my fault!I always feel lonely, e.g. in tutore time nobody wants to sit next to me, and I am always on my own in lessons, and it makes me feel really upset.How should I deal with these feelings? Sometimes I just need someone to cuddle me and tell me everything is going to be alright. Am I going mental, because I always feel really depressed, and upset. What should I do about. I really need your help!
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reader, Krystelle +, writes (27 April 2009):
I went through this last year, and as far the cuddle part, I'm going through it now. Although I've never tried this, you could join a club. But that depends if you're sporty or not. I find that being nice helps a lot, even if people are cruel to you. People sense what you are like and end up stopping the cruelty. It may take some time though. If you have any close friends, you could just tell them how you feel. As for the depression side I'd say you could tell your parents, and if you're really scared of their reaction just go along to the doctors. They take a blood test and within about 6 weeks (it was this amount for me), I had a counselling appointment. The counselling has helped my confidence and I find myself being a bit more open and friendlier with people. I don't feel as rejected anymore. However, I would strongly advice you to tell your parents, I didn't want to tell my mum but in the end I had too and she took it well. Parents may be harsh at times but they do have a real soft spot when they see the situation you are in.
If you want to talk about anything don't be scared too message me, I'd love to hear how things work out as well :)
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reader, malvern +, writes (27 April 2009):
 Reading your comments is like reading about myself 30 years ago.What you lack is self confidence. Write out a list of all your good points and remind yourself of them everyday. Look at other people, are they really all that wonderful? I can assure you they're not.Try to get friendly with another girl, there's bound to be somebody you'll get along with. Try to think positve thoughts about yourself. Your parents are just getting on with their own lives and probrably don't realise you feel ignored.Tell them a tale about something that has happened to you that day,what somebody has said to you,what is their opinion on something,and I'm sure they'll happily respond to you.My sons are your age and I suppose I'm guilty of just letting them get on with their own thing and not enquiring about their day etc. Think positive and throw negative out the window!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): I am so sorry that you have to go through this. It may be that others avoid you due to a negative vibe cause your down right now and lets face it parents never really understand like we want them to. Maybe seek some help by talking with someone who's qualified and make some friends outside of school. Like a church social event or bowling, just do something and try to be happy. You catch more bees with honey than vinegar:) I found my friends while riding horses and never really cared what those stuck up kids at school thought. Get a new outfit, shoes, hairdo and makeup, you'd be surprised how just a little effort will make you feel soooooooo much better. If you feel better about yourself then your vibe will change how people see you, they will want to know more :) I'll bet your a social butterfly just waiting to bust out and when you do watch out! Your parents surely Love you bunches and I'm sure they try to help so just overlook any negative input, say thank you and go on. I hope this helps, you are a good person and I know others will see that too. :)
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