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*ndy00
writes:Hi,I've been at university since September, where I moved into a student hall. I live with 5 other people, and are usually in the company of our neighbors. Over the course of the past several months, I feel like the connection I had with everyone has declined significantly. I can't relate to anything that they talk about (generally gossip about people who I don't know, nor have any interest in knowing). I find that nobody tells me what's happening if anything interesting is going on, e.g. Going into town. I find out after everyone has left.It's gotten to the point where I walk into the social area in my own flat so hi, and probably 4 out of the 5 people that I'm suppose to be living with won't talk to me. I used to ask how everyone's day was, but I gave up because nobody ever returned their interest in my day, so I thought "what's the point?".I don't know what it is I've done to be shunned, but all I know is I don't enjoy it. Is there anyway I can turn things around? Because I don't have the faintest idea. It would be nice to finish this year without thinking "Thank god I don't have to live with these people anymore". I'd rather have fond memories of everyone, but that isn't going to happen while I'm the black sheep.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 April 2009):
There must be one person who you feel you can approach.
Next time you come out of your room and someone is alone then say hi. If they are sat down then ask them if you can join them.
Then you just have to ask if you've done something to annoy people. Say you'd like to come out with them and make friends with them but you're not quite sure where to start.
You've left it a bit late in the year to do this but just go for it and speak to people and try and be social.
Good Luck!! xx
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