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writes:Okay im not doing well at all, we have seperated me and my guy (hes 26 im 15) i kno its a big age gap. I told im it was time to give it up bekoz of our age gap plus the day after we were found out anyway. i miss him so much, i was so close to him and i dont know if i can cope with it.i just feel empty, its a really long story but end of storey is why do i still have feelings for him when i told him it was over??? arent u like supposed to move on easier if u break it off??? im soo confused i dont know what to do? i wanna talk to him but i wouldnt know wat to say or wat questions to ask? im just so lost? i need help!! all advice appreciated xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): Firstly you are 15 and he is 26, what on earth was a 26 year old bloke doing with a child aged 15? Sorry, but if you two had sex then the law has been broken. He should know better! If you have broke it off then i think you have done the right thing. You just have to take each day at a time and the hurt will go away. It takes time but dont go back to him to heal the pain. Move on.
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reader, rediph  +, writes (26 October 2007):
Let me first try and comfort you with this knowledge: You made the right choice.
With that type of age gap it would have probably never worked out anyway, there are a few cases where age differences like this work out, but it's not a recommended path. He is probably working or trying to pursue his career, while you are still in highschool(or you should be). The maturity difference here is massive, and not to say you are immature for your age, but he has still had 7 years more experience, and especially those 7 years in particular.
Now, I understand the hurt off breaking up, and it sometimes takes a while to get over it, but you can NOT be friends with him. If you were really as close as you say you were then every time you talk to him or hang around him it is just going to make you miss him more, and that will hurt the healing process.
Try your best to forget he exists, get rid of anything that reminds you of him, and move on. The best way to move on is to find something else to fill your time, like a new hobby, reunite with an old hobby, or perhaps find a NEW guy! Finding a new guy would probably help even more, even if the new guy is just a friend.
You'll heal, I know it feels horrible right now, but it will get better. Stay positive, you have years ahead of you.
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reader, StaceyMarie  +, writes (26 October 2007):
 Just because your the one who broke it off doesnt mean that your feelings will just go away.
In my experience any break up needs time for you to feel better.
Eleven years is a very big age gap. He's at the age where he's getting ready to settle down and you've got your whole life ahead of you yet.
I find the best way to get over a guy is to go out with your friends and have a good time. Go to the cinema, have girly nights in with lots of food and dvd's.
If you are really missing him that much you could try ringing him and chatting about your options. Maybe try and just be friends?
But i really do think you should try and move on and in time the pain will heal and you'll feel better.
Best of luck xx
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