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writes:I stated seeing a man seven weeks ago and I like him very much. He is a wonderful person, but there is one big problem. He can't stop buying old radios, stereos, toys, video games, player pianos, record albums, etc. His basement, garage and house are filled with this stuff so that there are only paths to walk through.We were discussing taking our relationship to the next level last night and I was honest with him and told him that I could never live in an environment like the one he had created at his home. He has said all along that the stuff bugs him and he wants to get rid of most of it, but I've seen no activity towards doing so. I'm concerned that the relationship is on a dead end over this issue. I also told him I was concerned that his house mirrored a need in his soul that I wasn't going to be able to fill. Does anyone know if someone who buys and hords things like this can change? He is in counseling but that has not motivated him to this point.Please don't suggest that I suggest he get a storage garage for his things. He has three already.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (10 October 2007):
 Hoarders seem to be uniquely male dont they?
Don't know why this is, but you hear about these problems all the time in various chat shows etc.
the only suggestion I would add is not to move in with him unless his house,garage is devoid of all these ridiculous gagets.
From what I've read its an addiction like any other , he needs to be cured, but from what you've said he is not acting on it. The hoarder knows they have a problem but the one thing they need to do ( clear all their shit away ) is the one thing they cannot.
It bothers you now, and you arent even living with him. Imagine what it would be like if you did?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): Its gonna be hard but you can try and help him. Look online and get tips. He has a problem and its hard to stop! He may stop and contuine at some point. Look it up there's a name for that type of behavior
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