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writes: I would really appreciate if somebody could answer me. So here's the story;It begins like every other lovestory: girl meets boy, girl likes boy and boy feels the same. We started dating like two months ago nad it has been really fun. He is really cute and romantic. Like the day after we made our relationship official he sent me a loveletter at school and sent me red roses on my birthday and a lot more. But lately i have spent osme nights at his house. Nothing has happened though....yet. I'm a virgind but he has slept with one other girl before and I feel like i'm - this is gonna sound crazy - obligated to sleep with him. Every one assume we have.. even my older sister asked me other day: "and how was he?"...I believe i'm ready but the moment is never right or i'm just too nervous even though we've done almost everything besides that.So my question is: Should I sleep with him even if i'm REALLY nervous or I don't feel the moment? And how much will it hurt?And is it true that hit is worse for the second time?Sorru for all the questions in one but I hope someone responses :)xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): Thank you all very much !!
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reader, Problem.helper  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 You should have sex if you really want to.
Its normal to be nervous. I mean its going to be your first time so its understandable.
But you should want to have sex. The feeling that you are obligated to have sex with him is not the right reason.
First time it should be with someone you love and who really cares about you, someone who is willing to wait for you.
And if your boyfriend is the same age as you are it shouldn't hurt that much.
Good luck to you however you choose
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 March 2011):
 Wait until you feel you are really ready - if he is worth a darn he will wait for you too.NEVER EVER feel obligated to have sex with a guy. Ever. IT IS OK, to both say no and say, this and no further. Having some personal boundaries is healthy.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 March 2011):
 You should not have sex with him unless you're absolutely sure you're ready. I can't speak to your other questions, but I think you should wait. If he pressures you, then he's not as great as he seems.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (22 March 2011):
Where is your parent while all this is going on? I feel a girl of 13 is too young to sleep overnight at a guy's place, to experiment sexually, and to ask us for advice! Talk this over with your mother or a school nurse or counselor. Whatever you decide to do, be sure to use a condom. And, I for one do not like sex with a condom - but it is better than having an unexpected and unwanted child at a young age. If you are going to become sexually involved, then I'd suggest going on the pill if it is possible at 13 or so). Plus, think of your reputation at such a young age when the world gets around your school that you sleep with your boyfriends. Yes, this talk can destroy your good reputation and, to me, is not worth it - no matter how good it may feel. I think the young man is thinking more of getting his jollies than in your well being. Please seriously think this over before taking any action that yu may regret!
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