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writes:I have this friend in Afghanistan right now. I know he's been very busy and working hard. We talk on Facebook and recently added him on Skype.The other day he had poor connection on Facebook so he sent me a note on Skype telling me we should use that instead. Well, I asked him when he'll be available and he sent me this:"Happy V-Day. I'm usually up and at work from0630 to 2200, so my time is short. It's too crazy a schedule. I'm sorry, but we'll just have to catch each other like on facebook."Then he connected and talking to some relatives so I didn't want to bother and told him to do it later, and he Later wrote this:"I'm not much of a chatter box right now. It's very late and I'm very tired. How about you start emailing me at xxxxxxx@xxxxxxx? We'll catch each other online again soon I'm sure, but tonight is no good."Why is he doing that, made me feel like stupid. Why he tells me to write on Skype, then back to facebook and now email? Please tell me what is going on here????MOD NOTE: Titled by Poster
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (14 February 2010):
The connection is crap, they have limited time, there are a million reasons why email is better.
Have you ever been on the phone / msn chat to someone who then says "Shit mortar attack! brb"
And then disappears for half an hour?
I have. It is HORRIBLE.
It could well be that if he likes you, he doesn't want to put you through that.
I think you need to give him a LOT more slack. If he's in Afgan then there are going to be times when you don't hear from him for 2 or 3 weeks with no warning.
If you can't handle a suggestion that email might be more convenient, then you may want to do the guy a favour and stop chatting to him now, as you'll just add to his stress.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): He's in afghanistan! He might of seen some nasty stuff today!
They have limited Internet access, maybe he wants to keep your conversations private?
He speaks to relatives cos at the min he!s closer to them than to you(if he's just a friend!)
he may be super tired! It's hot and dusty, cramped blah blah blah.
Chill out.
I got my hubby of 8 yrs a card, choccy, three gifts, a trip out last night and tonights dinner.
He bought me a card, a lovely card, but I still feel disappointed, especially as I know he's had time and money to get me something, I am really quite mad. But at the same time he's here with me.
Choose carefully what u feel is worth getting upset about?
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (14 February 2010):
 if the connection s bad maybe hes just switcthing back and forth using what ever works best communcations may not always be so reliable. Give it time things will work out. He needs your friendship so stop worrying. And Your not stupid
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