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writes: What can you do ,if you think ,your husband is not telling the truth, but you can't find a way to prove it?I feel very strange, because I think he is not telling to me what he does, but it's just an intuition, without any evidence. How can I not be a bad wife , who can't trust, but also not be a victim of years of lies?How you deal with something , what you can't prove,but you feel it's there? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): Watch him for some days and if you still feel some thing fishy, talk to him indirectly. If he gets what you are intending to say, then he will speak out if he wanted to share it but don't know how to start. But if he is is delibratly hiding things from you and you feel it, then ask directly. Be careful not to be offensive and the crack widens. Be polite and just express what you feel.
You did not mention what you feel your hubby is hiding. Men hide things for many reasons, but their emotions cannot be hidden for long and women can. So watch out for those and also changes in the bodylanguage and the response he gives for your questions.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (27 November 2008):
 I don't want to sound like a shill for this product but if you really want to know one way or the other then buy him a new high end Nokia phone with GPS and download a product called FlexiSpy Pro. It will cost you some money but you will know where he is, who he's calling, you will see his inbound and outbound texts and you will be able to hear anything that is going on in the vicinity of the phone. It is scary stuff and may well not be legal where you live but you will have your evidence one way or the other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): I guess it depends what the lies are that you suspect.... is it another woman? finances? family related? There are ways to find out the truth but before you start on such a journey you have to come to terms with the fact you do not trust this man. Gut instinct is a powerful thing so try and go with that. You could put it down to paranoia but as it has gone on for a long while I would not avoid it. If things are troubling you you could ask him straight up and watch for negative body language or a defensive response. If there is something tangible - paperwork, emails, text messages there are lots of ways to access these secretly (just use google as lots of products exist to help you find things out). You have not given much detail so its hard to give specific advice but if your feelings are overwhelming then you would only be letting yourself down by not finding out more.
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