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writes: I have a slight problem. My girlfriend has not long got a job which means she has too work evenings three times a week sometimes four times per week if not on the weekend. The thing is she has college full time and does not have a day off. She is at college from 9 till half 4 every day and then has too work from 5:30 until 10. And 11 from next week!! I feel its affecting her health as I saw her yesterday and she appeared quite stressed about college work. She had quite a lot of spots come up also in a small ammount of time.I have tried too talk too her about it and she agrees she is doing too much but she doesn't want too ask too work weekends as she is a temp and she doesn't want too be kicked out in december.The other thing as well is whenever I see her we end up just lounging about the house in her room and she is lying in bed and wants me too as well. If I seem as though I don't want too lie around all night in her bed she will take offence and expects me too. I make the effort too go and see her and too be lying in bed all night I really find it tedious! she has nothing too do at her house so with the added work she has been too tired too go out.Is there anything I can do or say without offending her in anyway as she can be easily offended?
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (8 November 2006):
 Hi Anon,
This is doing her no good working all these hours plus going to college too,if she's feeling lifeless all the time and she carrys on the rate she's going she could end up collapsing..does she really need to work all these hours? is this job more important then her health, basically tell her she is doing too much which is not doing her health any good,and you are concerned for her health, and its also affecting your relationship,you could try telling her that you would like to be able to go out now and theninstead of lounging around the house,you must tell her how you really feel,and im sure she will not be offended by you caring about her and being concerned for her welfare..
GOOD LUCK
xLEAHx
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reader, Itmustbesaid +, writes (8 November 2006):
Your problem isn't all that uncommon. Most college students who were not fed with a silver spoon have to work. It makes it really hard for relationships when you have to study, attend class, and work, but if you are with someone who is understanding and patient it makes it a little bit easier. I know it's hard not having the quality time that you used to have with your girlfriend, but it will soon slow down for her and she can get that much needed rest which will allow more time with you outside of the house. Be patient and understanding and she will want you to be by her side, otherwise you will find yourself out alone wishing you could be laying in her bed.
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