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writes:I have a very good friend, Y.D. Last year, I was used by some other people, and I ended up friendless. This year, I was being nice to all of my classmates and ... well, she was suddenly my friend. I don't know how it happened, I was just being nice to her. She has been sticking to me like glue for months. It has been irritating me beyond belief. If I make a new friend, for example, I made friends with F., and her other two friends, S. and A. Well, even though Y. never liked them, she (Y.) has suddenly become their friend. Recently, I made friends with another girl, N. N. and I discovered that we have a lot in common, and that we're like twins.Well, Y. has never expressed a wish to become friends with any of the 'other clique', which N. used to belong to. Y., in fact, totally ignored N. until today, when I started hanging out with her. She has been sticking to us like glue, and I feel like telling her to bug out. I have an example of 'sticking to me like glue': at my school, we need to give our cell phones in during the day and get them back. Well, at the end of the day, she follows me there and goes, 'HURRY UP! MY BUS DRIVER'S IMPATIENT TODAY!' which makes me think, 'Why are you here?'.She just won't leave N. and I alone, and I have always felt that she has been trying to 'steal' my friends or just come between us.How do I tell her to butt out? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): But what if I DO tell her to please leave us alone, and she possibly overreacts and tells everyone that I'm not a good friend, and N. nor my other friends want to stay friends with me?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 April 2008):
Oh god, clingy friends are a nightmare!
Arrange to do things with N out of school so Y can't get in the way.
Y sounds very insecure. She's too scared to make her own friends so waits for you to do the work. When she tells you to hurry up then turn round and tell her "why don't you go ahead then." If she refuses then tell her that it is her fault for missing her bus if she chooses to come with you.
When she is annoying you then tell her she is being annoying. She is more likely to want to change than to lose you.
Just stand up for yourself!
Good Luck!! xx
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