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anonymous
writes:My life is all messed up... My best friends are on other schools, I like a girl who I currently I just can talk with by phone, and I never feel happy... I hate to be lonely, but when I'm with friends I'm always smiling even tough I don't say many things... I'm shy. But I wasn't like this when I was younger... I guess I was to used to how people treated me being the cute boy I was once, and didn't really grew up for the teenager world... I don't know why, but I lost my kid expression and I'm not pretty anymore, and that is really one thing that affects me. Like, I'm always concerned about my looks, and if my hair is cool and if I am wearing good clothes... But still I don't like my face.Anyway, I just liked to ask what should I do to "surpass" my shyness? I never said what I feel for that girl and I want to start saying things around my friends (I can talk with my best friends, but not with other people)...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): So you were outgoing as a kid? And now you're not? Well, clearly you grew up, you are a different person. To be honest with you, this happens to just about everyone.
Do you think the only way you can be attractive is if you have a "kid expression?" Take my advice and don't worry about that. Girls your age don't want to date kids, lol, your looking like a teenager is good. :-)
Seriously, you styling your hair and actually caring about how you look is great. A lot of guys your age hardly even brush their hair, so see you're already ahead of the game.
Don't put yourself down so much about how you think you look. I'll bet you're the only person who thinks all these negative things about yourself. Everyone worries about their looks, no matter what they look like. I constantly worry about how I look and I model. Please don't let it interfere too much with your life, it is very bad for you.
About surpassing your shyness, I would suggest joining school sports, clubs, band, etc. Whatever interests you the most. When I was in high school, I was in about every club, tennis and swim. I was SUPER shy, but these social outlets really opened me up. Also, drama class can help. Being forced to act in front of people does wonders on battling shyness. :-)
Overall, be happy with yourself. Maybe talk to a school counselor if you feel really overwhelmed.
I hope this helps!
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