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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ugh. I just don't feel like dealing with this, but I have to. My bf and I have been together for more than 6 years. He says he can't stand any of the guys at his school and he is almost always at my school, but if they ask him to do something, he'll go hang out with them, get drunk and not come to my place. I really want him to have friends, but why does he say all those terrible things about what jerks they are and then choose to hang with them on the weekend.I always invite him to parties here at my school or to go out w/me and my friends and he often comes, but he never, ever includes me in the parties or other things he does with his friends. I feel locked out of that part of his life. I am starting to see him as a bit opportunistic. He wants to get drunk and not hang w/my friends so he uses these guys that he has nothing nice to say about. I am also starting to realize that he rarely pays his fair share when we go out or we are in a group. I pay the whole thing way too much. I have told him this bugs me, but he keeps on doing it.Do you think the reason he doesn't include me is because he is interested in someone else and he doesn't want me knowing anyone at his school so he can lead this double life or am I jumping the gun?It just seems like if he really loved me, he would include me and want his friends to know me and he would step up and offer to pay his own way. I am just feeling so taken advantage of and so taken for granted.Thanks in advance for any feedback.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): im sorry to say this but he is taking advantage of you hun its not nice wat hes doing to you and you shouldnt let him. stand up for yourself and you will c him change. he says those bad things about his so called friends cause hes insecure when hes with them try and avoid him and he will soon know who his real friends are
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): Don't jump to conclusions. Most guys need time away from their girls to keep them sane. He probably doesn't want you taking his time alone away from him which it sounds like is what may be happening. Don't you have girls night out? Make sure he gets his time away too, not just you.
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