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writes:hey.. me and my boyfriend have been going out for 14months.. and for the past few months it has been pretty rocky due to our exams.. for one we spend alot less time together and for two he gets really tempermental during. after the exams i thought we'd get time to fix everything, to try and build back a solid relationship.. and although he knows that i would go overseas very soon he still fills his timetable with alot of work and his other friends...with minimal time with me. also, a few months ago he'd say i love you but in these few months he just wouldnt say it, and when i say it and he doesnt it hurts alot. i asked him today why he doesnt say it anymore but he doesnt take it seriously and says "i do. i just say it when you are sleeping" also, me and him are starting to have a really unhealthy relationship.. i'd check his phone behind his back and he'd do the same.. but we both know the other person does it... we dont really confront our problems anymore.. for example once when i drank a little bit of alcohol i gathered the courage to confront him about this girl he admitted to liking to a friend (found out thru his msgs) but on the phone he said he didnt know what i was on about and said we shouldnt talk now, that we'd talk when we're sober. yet the next day we both pretend nothing ever happened.i feel like we're together because of the past...rather than being together for a future. yet i cant bring myself to break it off with him because i still do really like him. everything just seems different now, colder, and i cant seem to do a thing about it.i've thought about so many ways to break up with him.. bringing up that girl he "had his eye on" or just simply asking him to tell me he loves me and if he doesnt.. well then.. can someone give me some pointers?thanks
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reader, petina1  +, writes (28 November 2008):
 Tricky age with relationships is this one. He knows you are moving on soon as well, so he maybe adjusting to that. Lots of temptation about. He doesnt really sound like he wants to be in a serious relationship. No doubt about it he likes you. But. is it enough. You get on with your life and if he wants to be part of it he has some hard work. Long distance relationships are really really hard anyway without other doubts going on. Enjoy your life and good luck. hope this helps.
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