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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months, going on 7. Our love has never been stronger. I honestly and truly believe we are in love. He's 19 and I'm 16 by the way. For the first 4 months he didn't have a job, we've both had jobs in the past, but weren't looking. So we didn't have materialistic things, all we had was our love.But ever since he has a job, he's constantly pampering me, buying me things I need, taking me out to eat, and for our anniversary he bought me a ring. It's a beautiful ring, which I love and adore by the way. But we've been fighting a lot lately, and I tell him all I want is for you to love me, and he says I do love you, I do everything for you. But the thing is, I know he does everything for me, but money isn't love.I feel like our relationship is falling apart, I don't know why, we're constantly fighting, and I just feel like something is so wrong in our relationship and I can't stop putting negative thoughts in my head. I need to be the center of attention and I feel like the spot-light isn't on me anymore. I keep telling myself, he doesn't love me anymore, and I just don't know how much longer I can go feeling like this no matter how much he reassures me.How do I just stay calm? How do I fix this? I've been feeling like this for about a week now and I'm on my period so I don't know if this has anything to do with it.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (3 July 2010):
 Right now it's time to check yourself. The man tells you he loves you, knocks himself out giving you everything and you feel like the spotlight's not on you? What else does he have to do, build the Eiffel Tower out of his fillings?
Anyway, figure out what you need to feel loved. Obviously it's not money. Is it time? Is it affection? Do you want him to hug you more and tell you how pretty you are? Whatever it is, figure it out and tell him clearly and honestly. It's not fair to make him guess what makes you happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): well maybe your boyfriend feels as the man he needs to buy you stuff to show his love for you, but instead of the gifts you just want to be around him and hang out like you guys used to. I`m not smart when it comes to realtionships but maybe you should sit down with him and talk with him, tell him you want more time and less gifts, that you aren`t in love with what he can give you but your in love with him and that you are starting to feel lonly. I hope i helped and am sorry if i didn`t.
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