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writes:Me and my boyfriend has been in this relationship for 4 years, 2 years together and two years apart since I have to go overseas to work. We were so inlove. He is 25 and im 27. He has been asking me to marry him two years ago, he doesn't want us to be apart, so we can be together. Honestly, every time he asks me to marry him, I was sure that I'm not ready to settle down, he has a lot of growing up to do. Then there's this one time that I finally have the guts to tell him that I cant marry him now and told him to wait a little longer, maybe one yr more. One day, he said I should go home right away and marry him and never leave him again (later i found out he started sleeping around). when I said, not now i still have a work contract to finish, then he broke up with me. He did not talk to me in a month. Then one day he said, things wont be same anymore and he is not coming back. He confessed that he slept with 4 girls and he got a new gf, a 20 yr old girl whom he met after a one night stand. I asked him if we can still work it out. I made him choose between me and the girl, he said that he is falling for the girl and he wanna try if their relationship will work out. My life was never the same, I realized how much I love him after i lost him. I should have married him when he asked me so many times, now his gone. I thought i would die of heartache. I had a hard time moving on and if you ask me now, i would marry him if ask me again. I'm wanting to move on coz i dont have a choice but to accept it. but there's one thing that's bothering me, he is not taking off my/our pictures together in his facebook and he is not taking off our promise ring even he already got a new gf, the girl has been asking him to take it off but he never would. How am I suppose to move on if he still clings on this things, we haven't seen each other yet coz im overseas, in two months time I will be home. Im scared to go home coz I know It will be an emotional rollercoaster with all the memories and knowing that I have no one to go home to anymore. Should i see him?
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reader, scarletfoe +, writes (3 July 2010):
hi QuirkLady! your so empowering. thank you so taking the time.. I appreciate it a lot! I'll keep your words in mind.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (3 July 2010):
 First, let me say I am sorry that you're going through this.
Second, let me congratulate you on dodging a bullet! Yes, I'm serious. If he reacts to you saying you have to finish your work contract by sleeping with other women, imagine what kind of husband he would have been. It's best to find out now that he runs to other women's beds when times get tough.
I know right now it hurts, but I know that it will hurt a little less every day. On top of that, you don't need him to remove his pictures to start moving on. If he wants to keep pictures up of the best woman he ever dated, more power to him. You don't have to look at them or even stay friends with him. You have the power to click away from the page and go on with your life. That's the secret to moving on - go on with your life and keep doing things to make yourself happy.
Good luck.
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