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writes:I've recently come to terms with the fact that i am gay after being in a relationship with a girl for almost 9 months! It took me ages to admit to myself that i don't infact like guys as anything more than mates anymore, before i met my ex girlfriend i was straight and everyone knew me for being the party going girl who got with the guys! My problem is i feel like im now living a lie, and everyone that knows me..infact doesnt know me at all! I would just like advice on how to say it, becuase i dont even know where to start! My mum recently asked me if i was gay. I said i had been with a girl for just under 9 months but am confused.. she now acts as if nothing has ever happend and didnt accept it at all... so as far as shes concerned im still straight :S im planin on moving out as soon as i find the right place, just so i can have my own space and live the life that is actually true to me! Any suggestions on what to do would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): Sorry i am confused i don't know it you are gay \ bi \ straight pretending to be gay \ bi or gay pretending to straight or gay \ straight pretending to be bi. (gosh so many variations)
I think you have reached a point in your life where you want to define you. at the moment this is a big step for you and you want to explorer it. Go explore. You can always change it later.
Does it really matter. If you are gay it does not mean you have to have your hair cropped and dms .Just be yourself what ever your sexual preference and enjoy and have enormous fun.
Hugs Star.x.
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (1 March 2009):
 Hey,
OK, well your mum might be confused as well, probably because you didn't give her a definate answer and she's wondering how to bring it up again, without offending you in some way, it might not be, but it could be.
Also, you shouldn't feel as if you're living a lie, you should tell your family and friends.
If you're worried about their reaction, don't be. If they don't like it that's their problem :)
You have admitted it to yourself, which is awesome, now it's time to tell everyone else...it's going to have to happen sometime.
It might be hard brining it up, if you just want to tell your mum first, then talk to her when no one else is around and you can both talk about it in privacy. Then your mum might be able to help you out with telling everyone else.
Or you could go to someone else you trust for help, like a friend or some other family member, so they can help you tell everyone else.
Once you do it will be better for you because then everything is out in the open. It might take a while for people to get used to the idea because they've known you for a long time...but if they're true friends, they'll come around and support you.
Sorry if this hasn't helped much, but hopefully I have a little.
Good Luck :)
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