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writes:ok i'm a thirteen year old girl who is confused i feel like no one will ever date me i would love to know what to do i feel lonely and hurt is it just that in ugly or something is it just the fact that i'm not like perfect or absolutely perfectly skinny.What do girls do to get boys interested in that and want to date them? please help Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (5 May 2011):
 I remember when I was 13 I too thought no boy would ever want me and it is a really tough time. But when I was 15 I got my first boyfriend and have never struggled to get a boyfriend since!
I can promise you now, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you, it is the boys that are the problem. Boys between the ages of 13 and 16 are incredibly immature, most of them are more interested in their Xbox than girls right now. Yes you might see a few of them going out with the really popular pretty girls, but that is only because they think they will be 'cool' if they have a girlfriend.
The boy I dated when I was 15 - he was 17 (nearly 18). There was a big difference in his maturity and the maturity of boys closer to my age, and I have pretty much always stuck to older guys ever since.
Try not to worry for now, you are very young and boys will come along in time. And this should help a little bit - the girls who are really pretty now and look 'perfect' - they will be the ones who either end up pregnant at 16, or will be very plain and ugly by the age of 20. All the 'popular' girls in my year when I was 13/14 all have babies now (I am 23) or by the time they hit 18, they were not attractive anymore because they peaked too early. So if you are really pretty at 13/14, chances are you are never going to get any better looking and all the other girls will overtake them as they get older. When I got to 18 I really blossomed and grew into my looks so to speak, as did my friends (we were never the popular group but we werent geeks or totally uncool!) - and now I would say we are all far more attractive and popular with guys than the group of girls who were the 'pretty' ones at school.
I know it is hard at your age as you will really want a boyfriend and boys occupy your mind a lot of the time. But with a bit of patience it will all work out for you in the end, I promise.
All you can do for now is make the most of the way you look (and by the way, boys dont want skinny girls, they like healthy girls with curves in the right places) and experiment with your hair, make-up and clothes to find out what suits you. Your body will keep on changing up until you are 18, so you will have to keep on learning about your shape and what looks good on you, and what doesnt.
There is nothing in particular girls do to get boys interested, you just have to look nice, be smiley and happy, confident and fun to be around. And most of all - be yourself.
So for now, just make the most of the way you look and be patient - boys your age are very immature and probably wont notice girls yet. Give it a few more years and everything will fall into place, I promise you that!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (5 May 2011):
 Hey,I feel the same way, and i am a good looking 17 year old male (6 foot 1), who is very athletic (play hockey, volleyball, tennis, badminton).. it's really something we all do, due to insecurities, mostly brought up from the past (i was a chunky kid, and believe me, i got to know that quickly, the torment i went through on a daily basis was enough to put someone into a mental hospital, luckily i was strong enough to deal with it).... the torment stopped around grade 8, which was a relief... but it has been in the back of my head for the time leading up to now, and it will always be. So when you say no one will "date" you... trust me, i feel the same way, i'm in a slightly abusive relationship (my girlfriend solves problems with her friends before solving problems with me, her best friend tries to break us up every day, her best friend parties, does drugs, and isn't the nicest person (i have heard some stories of her with guys too).. if i don't text her shes mad, if she doesn't text me she doesn't care and i don't get mad. I confront her about this, and she just says she is confused and doesn't know why i'm upset with her, and her and her best friend aren't really friends anymore, but shes working on that before she fixes our broken relationship (i've done my part to fix it and change things, trust me)) and i can't let go of it because i fear i won't find anyone as pretty as her, or that i will be a very jealous ex-boyfriend, or that she will do something to ruin me.therefore, i'm in your situation, everyone keeps telling me to dump her, but i cannot face the fact, and i want to try and make it work...i think you will find someone, and i hope i can find someone if things in my relationship take a turn for the worst
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