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writes:this guy i've recently been involved with and i have quite a connection.. he had a daughter when he was 21 and she only lived a week - she was extremely preemie bc his stupid fiance was too selfish to get off the cocaine - and when i was 16 i had 2 miscarriages.. it was very hard for me.. i went through horrible depression anxiety and i couldnt eat or sleep hardly at all.. now, i often think of the babies and for the first year after i was trying to fill the void with puppies kittens babysitting other peoples children, it didnt help. it actually made it harder.. that was 2 years ago and when i met him about 3 months ago we clicked.. and i think the biggest reason is we've both lost flesh and blood. we have talked about kids but we both know it is too soon in our early stages of our relationship for that but he has told me every month when i have my period, in the back of his mind he hopes i dont start. and i feel that same way. and when i do its disappointing.. we're not trying for a baby bc we know better but we both are in the understanding that i have a very low pregnancy hormone so basically i will go through menopause early and it will be difficult to have kids after age 25.. but i hope for the best and try not to think of my uterus as a ticking time bomb so that i wont feel the need to rush anything before we are financially and physically ready.. its hard.. how can i get rid of this feeling i have? how can i make this craving for a child go away? i know im not ready now but its getting harder and harder to ignore.. people that have gone through this before, how did you cope with it? i'd like some suggestions from any of you that can help me find ways to try and push these feelings out of my head because i dont want to feel disappointed when mother nature calls my name each month lol im on the pill and it seems to be working quite well for me.. i thought about implantation and i discussed it with my boyfriend/significant other (whatever) - we're both not big into titles - and he doesn't seem to like the thought of me not having kids for three years.. so idk.. its a hard subject for both of us to talk about since we've both tried and lost with other people in the past so when we talk about it we're both very vague lol so idk, i mean. yeah i definately want kids but having an issue with my uterus is really pushing me.. bc i didnt plan on having children until after college and a few years later when i was extrememly financially set. so this is quite difficult for me.. thank you in advance for your relpies. i will be on to see your suggestions.. thanks! :)
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reader, 78ta09 +, writes (18 September 2009):
78ta09 is verified as being by the original poster of the question lol thanks guys.. and i didnt know that my doc could do anything about it.. when my gyno told me that after i was sent in for bloodwork i was so freaked out i didnt know what to say or what to do so i didnt ask questions.. i left in tears lol but thank you guys so much :) youve brightened my day
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): Take antibotics it works really ;-)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 September 2009):
 If you have low progesterone levels they can be elevated and monitored by your doctor so your uterus isn't really a ticking time bomb. Relax you have plenty of time. Talk to your doctor.
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