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writes: ugh! i dont know why but my life absolutely sucks from every angle! For some reason i always get the worst of everything.Nothing good ever happens to me and i feel that im worthless. im 14 and i've never had a girlfriend. I feel that im ugly, and everone else is so much better looking than me. how can i compete? i cant. and that's not even half of it...there's alot of other issues. for some reason i always get the worst out of everything. bad luck? i think im cursed, or bad karma? i havent done anything wrong. so i dont understand why me? nothing good ever happens to me, and i dont live a happy life..so it tends to bring me down, and i end up feeling depressed alot and i dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): i'm sorry to hear that, but your verry verry much young to be going through stress. Look i'm only 24 but i honesly think you havn't delt with real stress that come day by day as you get older and have much more responibilies. i'm just being stright up. Don't let lil things get in your way. One important thing you need to have is be verry confident and strong. You have to think like nothing can hurt you and that there are gardians like angles surrounding helping you. Do what u love best be a good person, and continue to move on life is wayyyyy tooo short. don't let it take the best out of you. your not alone. this is your world this is your life live it.
love you, god bless!
take care hun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you everyone for all your thoughts and ensite on my situatipn. and i really appriciate that you would take time to write back.
- To littekitten1130 thanks for your advise.. and yes my life is miserable and it sucks for many different reasons many things taht are very complicated to understand especialy becuz im from a differnt culture.so i care not to get into that. it would take ages and it would make me even more depressed. and to this "You want to be nice, polite, flirty, and outgoing with a sense of humor, you want to have confidence and tell yourself in your head that you are worth something" i am all thsoe things but sometimes i just pretend to be happy so people wont notice.
- To Rainorfire i totally understand where your are comming from. and thanks for the advise. Yes i am a christian so i do believe in god and i am looking foward to the future if i make it that far. yes you tell me to get out roam the world get a hobby but what if those things arent possible for me?
SO A BIG THANk you to Everyone!! I TRULY APRECIATE IT. you've trully helped! thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): There's so much to life than what lies in front of you. Expand your thinking and learn to dream. Be around positive people and support groups. Where are your parents, btw?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Oh Jesus. Literally. Hmm. No, this kid needs to accept himself, not Jesus. I'm sure he is a decent, normal 14 year old, who will eventually grow to become a happy teen. All 14 year olds do it, it's the hardest year hormone wise for many teens, including myself.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (28 July 2009):
 I don't believe in Karma and curses i believe in God and Jesus so as a christian i would say turn to them for guidance advice and uplifting. Its true not everyone is blessed with great looks or a genius IQ some are born into poverty some arent born alive at all, Some have terrible parents and horrible starts to life and some meet great misfortune along the way. I believe our time here on this world will be judged one day by a divine law a power far greater then man.You should concern your self less on your immediate situation and be more concerned with your eternal one.When i was your age i was very angry i had been hurt and disappointed by so many I had swore revenge against them, my anger and hatred weighed on me like a heavy ball and chain So one day i gave it up i realized my grievances where petty in the greater scheme of things.You can improve your life by finding faith, Not dwelling on things you can not change but bring change to things you dwell on. Jesus did not have a gf but it didnt stop him from fullfilling his destiny and becoming probably the most important person to ever live.Your only human you should have doubts setbacks and hard ships with out that what stories would you have what victories would you speak of as you grow things will become easier, enjoy your child hood for a small moment in time your life is not your own and that can be a good thing in time all your decisions will greatly affect you and your world.Think about the positive things in your life, get a hobby do some things your interested in surround your self by those wiser then you, the best way to do that is to go to a library for knowledge is the blade forged on the sword of instinct, so read and read alot fill your young mind with the wonders of the world .I hope this is of some help you really need to get out there and enjoy life start changing thing your unhappy with one at a time you cant change everything like looks and things you just have to accept that if you accept your self others will have no choice,Girlfriends rarely fall from the sky so if you want one your gonna have to do some work, but ask your self this why do you want a gf.
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reader, littlekitten1130 +, writes (28 July 2009):
 yeh...cheer up...i'll be your friend ;D You're talking to an ex cutter, major drama queen cry baby that has major suicidal emo moments and believes the worst things about myself. You don't need a girlfriend to make your life happy...what you need is one really good friend that will be there for you, never let you down, and maybe even hook you up with a girl he knows. You are young....finding the right girl takes time...and its not all about looks its also about personality. Girls like a man...not a depressing kid....have you ever wondered if the reason you still don't have a girlfriend is because you affect other peoples moods by your own?. You want to be nice, polite, flirty, and outgoing with a sense of humor, you want to have confidence and tell yourself in your head that you are worth something...beauty is not shown on the outside...its all about whats on the inside. Your life might suck atm...but you have to have bad days to appreciate the good...and its what you make of it...if you tell yourself its going to be a bad day...then it probably is. You need to find something important to do...help a friend or family member in need..think of something you can do that feels full
filling and worth your time...try to get a job(although you are a bit young for that) or find a hobbie or something you know you are good at, and do something with it. You know how I know you are not worthless...because every body on this earth is put here for a reason...you have some hidden talent...something special about you that maybe no one or only certain people have...the key to a happy life if first discovering what makes you happy...there has to be something...don't let anyone...not even you negative thought get in the way of letting you do something good with your life. It sounds like you just need reassurance, to get a girl, remember, it takes time , and look about the good traits you have, enhasize them when confronted with a girl...you are not worthless, hell, you even made my day because you made me realize i am not the only one with depression issues, and it feels good to talk to someone who has been in my shoes...and lastly, distract yourself, even reward yourself...This is probably not the best advice but i tried...i hope i helped a bit, and also, iam curious, why do you think your life is so miserable anyways? have you read some of the articles posted...there is always someone who will have problems worse than you...so tell me, why does your life suck...and what can i do to help?
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reader, dynastygreenward  +, writes (28 July 2009):
I can completely empathise with you, i am around your age and have never had a boyfriend, have image issues and have been battling with depression, though it has not been diagnosed, for the past two and a half years. However I have found that, although scary, throwing myself into different and new situations has completely helped me. I went on a couple of courses for sailing etc and in those one/two week courses you meet lots of friendly people, even if you never see them again, i felt really uplifted by the fact that these people i barely knew were treating me like a close friend for the week. that wouls be my advise to you - throw yourself in at the deep end and see where it takes you, and remember, other people are going through the same thingsxxxx
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