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writes: Where to start? Well have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 yrs. We have a child together, she is 15 mos old (I am stay at home mom). It seems every 3-4 months we get into a big fight, where he says he is unhappy. This last fight I had it, if he is so unhappy, I will move back to my home town (across country, where my friends and family are) I got a flight booked, but now he is saying he didn't mean it and doesn't want me to go.. I want to work things out, I do love him, but he says the most hurtful things when he is angry (I hope your plane crashes, you are headed no where, you deserved your abusive ex, I have never been happy with you) It takes such an emotional toll on me. On top of everything his mother calls me and tells me I should borrow money from my parents to pay off my boyfriends license (over $1000) My family has helped out by giving me $5000 in the past year. She said since she (thinks) she does a lot (she bought my bf a big screen tv) that my family should pay his license, because it's stressing him out.. Wow I have debts that stress me out maybe his parents can foot the bill then? Anyways I feel like my life has fallen apart and I feel very alone.. I just need some advice from someone who knows neither of us. Also I will add, he is a good father (could do a bit more) but he loves his daughter, he works and he usually isn't mean, but after a few months these blowouts happen. He isn't one to talk about feelings at all! I have tried to get him to open up about how he feels, I can't get anything out of him. Any help would be appreciated.. I just need some opinions on the situation
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reader, Red591  +, writes (30 November 2010):
 people do say hurtful things when angry but if its the same things like "i've never been happy with you" that is serious. you guys need counseling or to just call it quits. I would opt for counseling as you have a child to think about but no child needs to see her parents yelling at eachother so if it won't stop then split
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): He may be a good father but he is a hopeless partner. I really think you need to go back to your family for an extended stay to give yourself a break and be able to look at things with some clarity. Their support and love will help you decide if you have a future with your partner. It will not do your child any good growing up with unhappy parents. So regardless of your partners pleadings I would go home for a spell, with your daughter. You need space and time. Your partner should respect that if he is a reasonable man.
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