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writes:Hi everyone, my story may sound petty but I just think I might need some opinions on my situation. Okay so I've been friends with this girl for 4 years and we were on the same sports team and we always room together. Honestly our friendship is pretty good and we are always communicating even though she moved to UK for studies but she comes back home to visit. So we have hung out during her past visit but this time, I understood that she had to go on hols with her fam and I said okay we can hang after you get back.And when she came back I asked when she wanted to go shopping with me and she said not sure. And its been a couple days since I asked her that and today, she actually went out with some friends (mutual friends actually). The thing is i feel like she blew me off? Im not saying shes not allowed to hang with other ppl but like I feel blown off even though I asked her before she went for her holiday and even before she flew back from UK. So yeahhh... how i am suppose to react? and the thing is I've always answered to her messages even when its 6am cuz im a light sleeper but still i bothered. and I always help her with boy trouble and helping her out with stuff. She and I used to study together for our history exam, we bought each other meals and drinks and she helped me with homework last time. Just like good friends ya know. At this point, I just feel really pissed. Its just a feeling I can't seem to shake off. Cuz Ive asking her when shes free etc and said that shes not sure when shes free and today all of a sudden she's having lunch with other ppl. TOTALLY BLOWN OFF! Sorry if i should bitchy or petty, but i hope you can see what i mean. Thank you in advance for your opinions.
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reader, tinybubble  +, writes (26 August 2016):
I understand how you feel and it's normal that you would react that way. No, you don't sound bitchy. If I were you, I'd be pissed off too.
Maybe just wait for her to initiate contact again. For now, just stop contacting her for a while and don't ask her to hang out. If she really cares, she would notice and would want to see you before she goes back to UK. But don't get mad at her. She is still your friend after all and you've been friends for a long time. Don't throw all of that away for one misunderstanding. If she contacts you, you can tell her how you felt when she blew you off. A true friend will apologize and will make up to you.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (12 August 2016):
 I had a friend like this back when I was your age. For what seemed to me to be no reason, she suddenly stopped wanting to get together. My other friends stayed my friends. In retrospect, I think that friend was jealous of me. A boy we both liked seemed to like me back and she never forgave me....
I would free yourself of having any more expectations of her. She’s not your close friend now, if she was she’d be making time to see you. In my book, she’s fallen to the level of acquaintance.
It’s sad, it doesn’t feel good, but it happens. People you are close with at one age don’t wind up being your best friends forever.
She’s not spending time with you, I think the very best thing you can do is stop spending time wondering about her and instead do spend time with friends who do make time for you!
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