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writes:I don't really know what to say about this, I feel like i'm being very selfish but at the same time I also think my friend is being selfish. So I need advice on what to do and who really is in the wrong here...My flatmate has got a few friends down for the week, of course I knew she'd be hanging out and spending time with them but I didn't expect she would fully leave me out. Considering everyone has gone home, you think she would realise that I would be on my own whilst she's with her friends. She doesn't tell me when they've started drinking for the night, which means I come in late and they claim they've been waiting on me. They go for lunch, cinema, drink down the pub, shopping and not even an invite. When we go on a night out, she is more absorbed with her friends and I end up having to find them in the club, or being left out. And yesterday, luckily one of my friends came back so i went to stay at hers, yet she didn't even notice I had been gone all day or that I didn't come back for the night!It just sucks, because I understand her friends are down and she hasn't seen them in ages. But It's my last week at university, I stayed longer for her! But now it's at the point where I want to go home and I think she is being really selfish with what she's doing, she probably doesn't notice but I have hinted it and the fact that i'm suddenly never around and bit off with her, she must notice it! I always involve her and it's really lonely this week has been. I just want to know, am I being selfish about this? Or do you think I should tell her how I feel....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (31 May 2012):
 Well I think you should tell her how you feel. But at the end of the day even though you both live together and you are both friends it does not automatically mean that you both need to spend all your time together. Am sure she does not mean to leave you out she is probably just enjoying her time with her friends and not even thinking. But yes you should be straight with her instead of being cold towards her and not telling her why.
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