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writes:I feel like ive ruined my life at such a young age :/ive done soo many stupid things and its only hit me now how messed up i am....this year alone, ive had drug issues, stds, abortion and got myself into loads of debt, and ive just realised how much of an idiot ive been, ive let guys walk all over me, use me for sex only, thought i was one of the cool girls taking drugs before going clubbing, spending money borrowed from banks, ending up with, chlamydia, and i just carnt help but cry at how stupid ive been, these things are now starting to effect mei feel like im going through a quarter life crisis (if there is such thing)i feel like ive wasted so much of my life in a short amount of time, i feel like im in quicksand just slowly sinking, please dont laugh at that its just the only way i could describe, i dont know what to do though, i duno how to move on, where to start, how to make my life better, how to be a better person, im scared ive ruined my life for good, please dont think im an exaggerating this is really how i feel,please help :( x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): You are showing maturity and self awareness in your past actions. You are now living with the consequences and you've learned your lesson I hope. Not many people can see their lives for what they truly are, so you are one of those rare individuals that do.
It is never too late to change your life around. Think positive and believe that you are worth all the good in the world. Your past is your past and you cannot change it. You only have the power to change the present, so learn to let go of the 'past' and live for now.
Live long and happy my friend. Good-luck with your future, I know that good thing will happen to you, this is an awesome start!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 You have an opportunity now to learn from your mistakes. Now that you realized what your mistakes were, now that you regret them, you can grow and grow stronger, you can grow wiser. I don't think you've ruined your life. I think that in realizing your problems, you've made your future a lot better than it would have been.
You will be rid of chlamydia through treatments if you haven't already started them. When you're free of it, you can start living a better life. Good luck
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): Why do you think ,you made so many bad choices? Did you have a bad childhood? Were you angry? Maybe you could forgive for yourself ,if you find out what was the cause ,behind your action.I hope ,you will learn from your mistakes. It is a great achievement,that you are able to see your own mistakes. That shows responsibility. Many people ,can never see,their own fault, they just blame everything on others. I think ,you are great, honest, and very young. I wish you a good life in the rest of your time!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Have you seen, "Dead Man Walking?" If not, watch it. The sister told the man on death row, "You are better than the worse thing you have ever done." I believe that to be a true statement. Sure you've made mistakes, but now you can decide no more drugs, using men for sex.(you were there too, so you need part of the blame for who was using who), borrowing and spending. You can change all of that right now, just decide to.
You recognize you need to change. That's the first step in doing so. You life isn't ruined. You can start living it to the fullest now. In working through your depression and beginning to get your life on track, I recommend counseling. I also recommend you find a coach or someone who has been through or has reached the direction you are headed so they can help you plan, set goals, and hold you accountable for reaching them. Don't look at your past as being ruined, look at it as being an experience, but now your desire experience that you feel is beneficial to you.
Most of us have veered off track at one time or another. Doing so doesn't mean life is over or ruined. You have the best years of your life ahead, live and love now, without regret for your past. The more you dwell on past mistakes, the more you'll still end up missing out on life.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Well you haven't ruined your life yet.
If your age is correct and you have figured out you are screwing things up...Then you are smarter than you think.
When people think a life like yours is normal, and that's the way things should be...Then you are truely screwed.
I can tell you a ton of things to do...But...What do you want for yourself???
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