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30-35,
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writes:My boyfriend and I haven't seen each other in one month as we go to different schools for college, five hours away from each other. He's coming up to see me next weekend but it seems like things between us has changed. He stopped calling me beautiful everyday, and he's grown less romantic with me. I don't feel as special to him as I did before. I told him about it, and he's like, "I called you beautiful three days ago----, Oh, I see what you mean now." He's saying it now but its not the same as before, his tone is different. I feel like I'm the only one who cares about our relationship. Also that I'm too needy. I don't have many friends in college, they're all busy with their lives. I want to talk to him as much as we use to, I try calling but he doesn't pick up. Sometimes he sleeps for many hours and other times I just don't know what he's doing but I assume its baseball practice. I feel like I hardly hear from him. P.S. Please, don't tell me to break up with him. It's not the thing I want to resort to. Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 October 2009):
If you want this to last, you both need to sit down and have a serious talk about what you want. A long distance relationship needs a huge amount of work, and both of you need to be totally committed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2009): wow it's hard to counsel you. BUT I can tell you that now [looking back], I think that people under about 25 or 30 years of age change some almost every day. That measn the person you started liking or being boyfriend/girlfriend with weeks or months ago will change quicker the younger you are. Usually guys below the age of 25 are idiots, and often they're idiots even into their 80s or 90s. Yes I'm a guy. We're just not like females in most ways. I CAN tell youy that many guys will not break up with a girl b/c they don't want to deal with it. the next few months will tell you where things are going. MY BEST ADVICE IS THIS - please consider it - get involved in LIFE. NOW. Don't wait for some guy who's obviously not committed to you to dominate your life. I missed SO MUCH of my college years, over a girl who turned out to be a liar and a tramp. I missed so many opportunities to live LIFE. Go learn how to SCUBA dive! GO learn how to make a fire without matches. Go get involved in volunteering at a hospital. Run a marathon. Or find a sprint triathlon to do. Learn to paint with oils like Monet! Go throw darts, or find someone from another country and become their friend. See the world! Be yourself, while learning who YOU are. DON'T worry about what others think of you. Your worth comes from YOU not what some guys says or doesn't say. Spend time "BECOMING" who you are. Some day, perhaps many years from now, some guy who sees you for who you are, will fall for you and THEN you'll look back and be glad you became that person he fell for. Does ANY of this make sense? Get out and LIVE LIFE. Do it NOW, before it's too late.
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