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writes: Okay, well... I have some problems. Me and this guy really, really like each other. He thinks I'm amazing... He loves my body he thinks I'm absolutely beautiful... But truthfully, I have soo many flaws covered up by clothes. I feel like I can't get in a relationship because I can't give a guy what they want... My stomach, back and legs are so hairy. I won't let him give me massages or touch my tummy. I can't wear shorts or skirts cause I have these dots on my legs from having coars hair on them and shaving. Also, I have really bad discharge and so I won't have sex or anything. Plus, my virginity is really important to me. A lot of guys like me they think I'm sexy and all, but that's only what they can see. They don't know what's underneath. I really like this guy, he's so sweet. But, I can't give him what any other girl can. I can't even wear a swim suite. It makes me cry all the time. All of this takes over my life... I just don't know what to do... D: Ugh, I really care about him... Everyone tells me I'm too good for him, but they don't know... He wants me to be his girlfriend, but underneath I feel like I'm not good enough for any guy.Help, please... sorry, didn't mean to write my life story... haha
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all of you for your answers! :) I might go see a doctor, I'm just too embarrassed... But, this truly is affecting my life, my confidence, I just wanna be a normal teenager. So, I might go... I think I'm gonna give this guy a try. I can't let him get away, I really like him. Hopefully he'll accept me... Again, thanks soo much for taking the time to answer:)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 June 2010):
 More than a beauty problem it sounds like it's a health issue, you should go see an endocrinologist. From your description it sounds you could have hirsutism ( hair growth in areas where normally the female body has little or none ). Often it comes from having Ovarian Policystosis, o some malfunctioning of hypophisis or surrenal glands- a doctor will know. It's perfectly curable, anyway if you have a hormonal imbalance you should not neglect it because in the long run it may affect also your cardiovascular system, so it's not only about looking good .
Same thing for the discharge, if it is excessive or smelly, you need to tell your doctor.
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reader, babygirl635  +, writes (6 June 2010):
oh, hun! that is what i felt like 2 months ago until i saw what other ppl saw- a beautiful, young woman. i thought i was fat, but i am average. andif he likes u, then go for it. try it. and everyone has flaws, dear.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 June 2010):
 Hey doll please go see a doctor about the discharge cause it shouldn't smell. If it smells it usually indicates that there is something wrong. As for the hair part if a guy loves you enough the hair wont be an issue. Also you could talk to a doctor about the hair too it could be a hormonal thing.
Good luck sweetie it's all gonna work out ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): dont know if this will help,but will try anyway.i had the same problem with my body,only it was worse than yours.i have stretchmarks running from my legs to my stomach and all around my butt.the stomach ones are the result of previous pregnancy,but the rest are from gaining some weight during my puberty.my grandma saw me dressing recently and said jokingly that she hopes i dont do that infront of my husband(show my body)supposd to feel hurt but i didnt.infact i laughed.my husband loves me so much,he thinks am the most beautiful girl on this planet.took me a long way to feel the way i do now,but you have got to understand that women are so judgemental of themselves and others.you might be the only one who sees your flaws.others may be dying to have a body like urs.no ones perfect,chances are that the one you envy is also battling the same feelings inside.besides,if someone realyloves u,he sees beyond your flaws.sometimes they dont even notice them until after we women point them out.and men find it rediculous.keep ur vaginity tho until ur abit older.learn to truly love urself coz thats the only way that samone else wil love u the same.goodluck dear.
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reader, chiggy  +, writes (6 June 2010):
hmm...Its tough..i think you cant stay away from guys forever,one day or the other a guy will come in your life.Still if your not comfortable with it right now then you dont have to go for it,wait till your ready and are enough confident to have a boyfriend.You have your whole life girl!!
All the Best! :)
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