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writes:Hi all I am a 16 year old girl who is a virgin and I masturbate really often and I feel that I do it too much and I am getting addicted as I will masturbate when I wake up and when I get home and before I go to sleep also I watch porn while I'm masturbating which I've grown up for it to be wrong what should I do??
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reader, rocker_grl_96  +, writes (9 November 2013):
 I am 17 and I was in the same situation last year. I thought it was werid or I was getting addicted but its fine.I still am a 2-3 times a day person too and I ALWAYS use porn. Yea its fake, yea real sex is nothing like that but if u keep telling g ur self that then there's nothing wrong with it. There's no use in saying not to use it cause let's face it, we need it to get off. Or it just ain't gonna happen. So seriously ur fine, just co tinue on with your life like nothing changed
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2013): There is absolutely nothing wrong with the frequency you masturbate as long as is does not take away from things you need to get done, your daily life, keeping you from your friends and family or a relationship with someone special.I understand watching the porn to masturbate, but please be careful with that. Please make sure you understand when you do get to that place you want to have sex with someone special, that what you've been viewing is not what sex is really like. Most porn is geered for men and often shows women being degrated and to do things for shock value. Their bodies are made into something most women are not, with plastic surgery, bleaching, makeup, angles/lighting,etc. And because boys and young men are primarily getting this as their sex education these days, they think this is what they are going to do or get too, and it can often make the girl scared or reluctant and everyone is disappointed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2013): I'm a woman in my 20s and I masturbate 2-3 times a day…and I think it's great! So don't be too hard on yourself.
If it stresses you out though, try to take some time off. Just go a week without it--it will be easier than you think.
I've also found that the less I masturbate, the less I want to masturbate, which is kind of funny.
I don't think it's necessarily wrong to watch porn, but most of it is definitely catered to men and then they think they can get a woman off just by touching her for 30 seconds…so unrealistic.
PS. Masturbating is definitely safer than sex, especially at your age! So that's a positive :)
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reader, Bazinga  +, writes (8 November 2013):
 There is nothing wrong with masturbating. At your age I was the same and masturbated most days, in fact not much has changed. Masturbation is healthy and relaxing.
The only problem is if it interfers with your day to day life and activities, if that is the case then try to masturbate less.
As for the porn, I don't think its bad per se but unfortunately most porn is not directed at women and a far cry from the reality of love making. There are some women friendly porn sites and ethical porn sites. Every so often is no harm, just don't over do it but masturbating no need to feel dirty or ashamed. Its totally natural.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2013): There is nothing wrong with masturbation but if you are using porn to get yourself off you realize what you see is staged and that normal men and women are not clean shaven in their private parts and men are not all waxed. I tried waxing and let me tell you it is very painful at best and my skin turned beat red. Also what you see in porn in real life rarely occurs. So turn down the porn off the internet to bring your libido back to some where more normal behavior is happening. Look at some b rated movies that feature couples engaging in more normal sexual relations and not other sexual activities that are not practiced every day. There are some good books out there that discuss male and female sexual activities closer to the norm. Also by reading you wont be masturbating as hard and you can actually imagine better what is going on in your mind. A more real life possibility than the absolute perversion that on line porn tries to portray as normal. How can gang bangs,rapes and sexual brutality be normal. It is painful at best and if you don't believe us here call up one of those 1-800- help lines and they have qualified counselors that will tell you about the negative perceptions that on line porn makes of women as no more than sexual objects to be used and abused for individuals own self gratification. I believe once you become informed you will naturally tone down the masturbation to some manageable level. And maybe a good book about a prince charming seducing his love in a normal and beautiful way will make you realize that love and love making can be beautiful between two consenting people. Move forward with what i have just told you and turn that on line porn stuff off. When you head clears really think if you would want to be used or abused by multiple individuals or someone of your own sex. This does not sound normal does it?
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reader, JustToonz  +, writes (8 November 2013):
Finally a question that i can relate to, well 2 years ago i was 16 and i masturbated everyday no joke! and i was doing the same thing your doing but i would do it every night and i kept doing it for about a year, and trust me when i tell you that this habit will get worse in the future, Masurbation is not bad, theres a thing called a "bad habit"
You have to break yourself from this, i don't care how many people tell you its okay to do it, yes its okay every once in a while, but from what you have put in your question, that your getting addicted, this is the time you need to break this bad habit, use moderation.
i don't have this bad habit anymore because i used moderation and commitment, change your schedule up! DO NOT give in to that urge tonight to masturbate Because that's your body wanting more of that feeling, and the more you masturbate the more energy is bieng used up, and that is why you constantly do this every night, your brain never really gets satisfied from masturbating it just wants to feel up again with energy that the orgasm gives you,
Just do it every other day, and then when you feel confident enough, you can move it up a little, do it every 4 days or every sunday, and then after that move up to doing every 2 weeks, or you could completely stop which is going to be even harder for you because you do it every day, which is why you follow threw with this, and dont give in, With a little commitment, you will be older and over this. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2013): If it is interfering with your life, I would slow down and let my hormones get back into balance. They will slow down if you slow down and wait. Otherwise, I think masturbation is healthy and allows you to remain absent from sexual activity with partners, which is risk taking every time you do so. Watching porn might just be making it worse, however, as it puts you in the mood to do so. Otherwise, I don't see anything wrong with it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 November 2013):
 Stop with the porn. At 16 you really should not be watching that much porn, it gives you a really screwed idea of what sex and love making is. PORN, my dear, IS FAKE.
http://yourbrainonporn.com/
REad up on it and learn.
The masturbation is not "bad" or "dirty", but there is a time and a place for everything.
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