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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes: My GF and I have been together just over 2 years. She has a 2 and half year old daughter that i also love very much. When we started dating, we would see each other friday nights, saturdays and sundays. We both work so weekdays are kind of awkward. When we are together, we are together with her daughter, which like and i dont mind, when night comes, her daughter goes to sleep and then only are we actually alone, which is maximum 3 hours. But since the beginning of the year, our time together has become less and less.We hardly never see each other on a sunday anymore, we've seen each other about 3 sundays this whole year, only because her sister told her to invite me. But recently Friday and Saturday nights have been cut short as well. After her daughter goes to sleep, we'll watch television for like an hour, or sometimes i'd give her oral. But then afterwards she says she's tired, she wants to go sleep, then i have to leave, after just seeing her for 3 hours. Before we would watch television till past midnight.I understand her being tired, because being a mum is hard work. But it never used to be like this. To be honest, im fed up now, I feel like I'm just being used for her convenience and being taken for granted. She says she loves me, but lately im not sure. I dont know what to do, or how to approach this issue. Please help. Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, MoonLux +, writes (16 September 2010):
Howzit! From what you wrote, I'm sure you appreciate and love her for her dedication and love for her daughter. Sounds like she's earning a living for her and her child ( and kids can be quite expensive!). Can't fault the woman for paying her bills. I'm not big on mushy talks but just let her know you miss her and communicate your needs to her, whether they are physical, or simply for quality time. Maybe you need to amp up the romance by being an awesome Romeo and plan a date over the weekend e.i. get a sitter, have dinner ready, arrange for chores she usually would do to get done for her.
Good luck and hope all works out.
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