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writes:Things have happened between me and my friend we have gotten into a to fights over a couple of months. He said he was done with me, but he's really, really special too. I've never had anyone one so special to me, I love him to death. Last year our friendship was perfect, i got to know him and learned how to trust him. (which its very hard for me to trust people.) And even though he said that we would only be friends, he kissed me on the lips once, we even hung out over the summer. And he once said I was special to him.. now because I'm such a bad person he won't talk.. well he will if i'm in need something happened a couple of weeks ago. I needed someone to talk to and he was there for me, then he say something to me that no one else has.."your though, you will make it." He was the only one that really believed in me, and i don't want to lose that but he's changing so much.. he got mad at me when I asked about hugging him he said "if you truly wanted to hug me then you already would have." I would have given him a hug but I wanted to give him space.. i've asked my friends and they think he's giving me mixed signals too, but he's very complicated.. I'm so confused all I want to do IS hug him.. i don't know what to do, i've tried talking to him and everything and everyone says give him space, but the thing is I have and now want an answer. I know he says leave me alone but I think I should at least get a goodbye not a "leave me alone." I'm so emotionally tired and everyone says "you will know what to do, your heart will tell you."...well honesty I don't know!!! I don't know how to feel, i have mixed emotions, but i'm so tired.. i'm feeling like i'm fighting a losing battle but can't help but fight..i really don't want to let go, cause he's become a better person.....no one really understands how I feel about him..everyone says "your so stupid, all he does is hurt you, yet you still have feeling for him." I'm done with waiting but he won't give me any answers..i'm so confused about what my heart is telling me..am I stupid for feeling this way? Should I leave him alone? Or try to talk to him? What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 Your heart is telling you to hug him. I say go for it and hug him the next time you see him. That is what he wanted all along. He said "if you really wanted to hug me, you would have done it already". Just hug him and show him that there really is something there, a misunderstanding had veiled true emotions. If I am wrong and he pushes you away, then you will know that this is a lost cause but if he hugs you back, all is not lost, instead, all is found and uncovered.
From what I have read, he sounds as though he lets his inner most thoughts get the better of him, clouding his judgement and forcing him to assume things about people's actions which is why he thought that perhaps, even though you said you wanted to hug him, he did not believe you because he assumed you would have done it already, he never took into account, your consideration for his emotional wants. That is just what I think is happening, it is just my opinion on why he is acting this way. If you hug him and just tell him how you are feeling, his delusions shall pass and he will hug you back realizing that he was wrong. If he DOESN'T, then I was wrong and he is more complicated than I percieved. Good Luck.
I hope that helps.
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