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writes:Hi,im 25 and have a fairly comfortable life, nice parents and a wonderful boyfriend, so i feel stupid writing this, but i sometimes wonder what purpose i have in life.i mean im not particulary good at anything, i dont have a talent and even though im not stupid im not extremly intelligent - i did ok in my gcs's and a-levels.I have had driving lessons for over a year and am still rubbish at driving. I did a beauty course at college but was no good at it. Im crap in any emergency, i cant cook, im not particulary good at my job - i seem to scrape by with hitting targets..the list goes on.Anyone else feel like they are just a waste of space?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): Everyones good at something, you just haven't found it yet.
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reader, freedom8  +, writes (26 February 2010):
I feel you're setting your standards too high. Nobody is a wasted space. Everything you do is important no matter how big or how small. Start by congratulating yourself on the small things. Like, you had the guts to partake in a beauty course, some people want to do these things but fear holds them back and they never even try. Better to have tried and failed than to never have tried at all. Everything in this world has started with someones thoughts..... look at what you are thinking.... start telling yourself you're ok, and not as bad as you think.. and you're a success...you'll soon start to see an improvement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): Every now and then I feel exactly like this and it's normally when I'm tackling something new and feeling very apprehensive about it all. Then it just get worse and worse and my feelings just start to spiral out of control....it's a very destructive path and can actually affect everything that you do! The key is to try and take some controlIf you are struggling with something - ask for helpIf you aren't achieving in an area ask yourself is it because you haven't aquired the skill yet or perhaps it's because you think you're not achieving when actually you are without realising - don't set unrealstic goals. My boss set me a task last month to complete something in roughly 4 days - I reckon it's taken me well over 8 days but I cant bear to tell him in case he thinks I'm useless.....not good I know .....I am a 40 year old woman controlling a house and 3 kids but for some reason when it comes to work I just shrivel up at the slightest sign of stress......it is something I have to work on ......something we all have to work on because we only have one life and wasting it on worries all day long is futile....tomorrow always comes and it's never ever as bad as you imagine it to be......somebody somewhere sees you as a valuable asset to life just try and recognise that in yourself too! Now, If I could just read though my advice and put it into practice then I'd be a happier bunny too!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): That is really sad. But just keep searching. Everyone has a niche or something that they are really good at. If you think about it for a while you'll probably realize it or when you get compliments from people take a mental note of them. I believe Jesus loves you and he knows your true purpose in life- get to know him!
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reader, starismine1  +, writes (20 September 2008):
 You need to connect inside yourself, and that often takes a long time traveling life's journey, but here are some tips on doing this: see things about yourself that are really great. I see them and I don't even know you. Here they are:
1) you care about being good at something
2) you want to make a difference in the world
3) you try to be a better version of you
4) you try again when you feel you fail (emailing this site is trying)
5) you perservere and don't give up in life
6) you're sensitive
7) you're intelligent (even though you don't think so)
now it's time for you to add things, no matter how small they are, to that list, and then focus on doing things you enjoy for you, where you will find other people who really value you for you, and your feeling so meaningless will ease and ease until one day, you will start to think "I'm no worse than anyone else, and maybe even pretty great".
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reader, Mark25 +, writes (19 September 2008):
 You are not a waste of space. And don't feel stupid by writing in. You're not. You are suffering from low self esteem. Ask yourself "why did my boyfriend choose to go out with me?" He could have had somebody else but he chose you. He chose you because he can see what a wonderful, kind and caring person you are. You say that you're not very good at anything. I find that hard to believe. I think that you're being over critical of yourself. Something that we all do. If you ask somebody else about what they think of you not being able to do anything what they say will probably be the exact opposite of what you're thinking. Everybody is good at something. You just haven't found what it is that you excel at. The truth is , neither have I. But that doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you. Having driving lessons for over a year is not uncommon. I know people who had driving lessons for a couple of years and failed their test over six times. Nobody knows what their purpose is in life. But you could always create a purpose. This is a voluntary agony aunt column. I chose to become an agony uncle because I wanted to help people. That became my purpose in life. To help people. Look around and focus on something that makes you happy and that you want to do and make that your purpose. But I cannot stress enough that you are not a waste of space and you need to get to the root of why you feel like this. Speaking to a counsellor will help you to overcome these feelings. Paedophiles, murderers and rapists and the like are a waste of space. You're not.
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