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writes:Been Together with my Boyfriend for Six Months now, we both love each other and are really close and get along very well, but i woke up today and realised i need space, i dont wanna break up with him or anything because i love him, but i just feel like i need to breathe for a while, i love being with him and enjoy spending time with him, but i just want to be alone for a while, i know i cant keep making excuses to why i wont let him come to see me, but thats what im doing, i feel guilty because i do love him and he means everything to me, but it just hit me that i need space. I dont understand why im doing this for? am i wrong for doing this? im his first love and first serious girlfriend, although he treats me like really well and is always affectionate, i feel like sometimes he dont appriciate me, there's no point in talking about it coz he thinks im probably moaning at him... so lately i have decided to have space, he dont know that, but im sure he will get the hint as i keep making excuses to why he cant come to see me. I honestly am in love with him, but sometimes i just miss the old things i used to do, he does still let me do the things i want, he would never tell me what to do but i feel like i cant because im with him... do you think i should carry on and have some space? i dont know if im wrong or right to be doing this. please give me some advice. x Reply to this Question
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reader, oliviaclairex +, writes (25 November 2009):
 I don't think you should break up with him for good, you obviously love him a lot and he does with you.
You wanting a bit of space is absolutely normal. Every single relationship I have been in, I get to a stage where I feel a bit, it sounds mean but a bit bored and I want a change for a bit. My friends has just been saying the same to me actually, and she went on her break, catched up with friends and went out and felt single for a bit.
Maybe you've got so used to him and you just want a bit of a change but too scared to loose him.
Why don't you just say you need a bit of time to yourself, reassure him you do love him etc. Then when you have this time, you may be so happy and want to be that way and leave him, or you may realise you need him.
Sometimes time apart is very healthy for a relationship, absense makes the heart grow fonder afterall(: x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 November 2009):
I'll tell you that you aren't as in love with him as you think. What you're saying is that you're not ready for a relationship. You are still young, and like all young people, want to be able to have fun and do as you like. If you're feeling that you need space to be able to do the old things, then you're not ready for a relationship, and your boyfriend simply isn't the guy for you. I think you do need to split from him if you want space. It is a bit unfair to keep him on a string. If you want to be able to do all those old things, be fair to him and end it so he can find someone else. Then go and have fun, be yourself and when you're ready, you'll find a guy who you'll love.
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