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writes:I feel like i'm drowning. I wake up in the morning and don't want to get out of bed, i don't want to face everything. The minute i leave the privacy of my room i put a smile on my face and act happy all day, and it's a lie. I don't know what to do. My friends are really depressed atm and they need me, we can't have a conversation with out one of them moaning about how much their life sucks. And i'm expected to fix it. they're pushing me out the group but at the same time wont let me go. My crush and i are getting on really well and we have a good friendship but i can't go to him as we're from different crowds my group is like the 'popular loners' and he's in the in crowd. But i dont fit with either of these. My best friend and i dont get on as well any more. and i'm doing ok at school but i'm not doing as well. i feel like such a fake sometimes and i don't know what to do. sorry it's long but i need to talk and i need someone to talk to. someone who might have any idea what i can do. please help.
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reader, betty_black +, writes (17 June 2009):
 I know it sounds like an obvious thing to say but you shouldnt ever try to be something your not, or try to fit in. I tried to fit in for three years of my school life and it got me nowhere and i was just absolutely miserable so i decided to just think fuck it and i started being myself. I lost a few friends but gained a lot more and got more boyfriends too, because i had a real confidence and i was a real girl, i wasnt fake and like everyone else. If your feeling this down then dont fake happiness because it wont go away on its own! You need to talk to someone you can trust, whether a close relative or friend, or maybe even a teacher or counciller. The important thing is to not bury your head in the sand and hope how your feeling goes away. It sounds as though your going through depression, but your only young and im sure your hormones arent helping!
As for the friends and crush. Who wants friends like that anyway? Its not gonna be helping you if all your friends are just as down as you, you need some friends who are gonna cheer you up and show you a good time girl! Try making new ones, join a club or just randomly chat to someone in class. The crush isn't worth it if hes gonna not go out with you just for popularity reasons. If he liked you enough he wouldnt care what his friends said. So ignore him, hes not worth it. Just buckle down with your school work, talk to people and try making new friends! I find a style change always helps me feel better :) Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): they are your friend after all and you should stick to the one that is your friends for real , if you like your crush than you should make him your best friend but dont put much pressure on him because you cant ask him for any thing you want , you need other friends beside him too ,try to organize your time and space between your friends and your love , the same thing happened to me with my best friend she keeps not to like any guy i go out with and she keeps telling me that am not leaving any time for her and that we are not hunging out as much as we use to and this put much pressure on me , thats why i think real friends should help no matter what , good luck
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reader, laur2000 +, writes (17 June 2009):
It seems like your going through a difficult time at the moment, dont worry we all go through those, even if you feel lonely and like nobody understands what life is like for you your not alone.I know that somtimes being the person that your friends moan to can be annoying and a bit depressing but you should be pleased that you are the person that your friends trust and want to confied in. You might feel that your struggling but it seems that your friends might be too, just try and be there for them and they should be there for you.
You and ur best friend might not be getting on as well at the mo but its prob tempory, people drift in and out of being really close and not so close all the time. if its really bugging you talk to them about it and tell them how you feel. it might bring you closer together in the end.
I hope this helps xxx
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (17 June 2009):
Everyone can relate to how your feeling, we all go through it at some point. You only speak about the negatives, what about the positives? People are constantly put into groups when really were all the same! If your gettin on well in your love life then work at that, keep the balance between that and your mates. If youve got an issue let them know about it, it has to work both ways. theres always a way forward so dont keep yourself in one place keep going and you wont be side tracked. Its ok to talk but when you feel your living a lie you know its getting bad. Dont take this to heart but at your age none of you should be depressed, your minds should be focused elsewhere, its difficult when adjusting to the world etc but focus on whats most important. You know whats best for you so go find it.
Dont feel a fake, we all try to fit in when things get bad. Mates change along with priorities, get them both back you need your mate at a time like this so try and work on that.
Please post again if the problem increases, its ok for it to feel too much, your only human. Best of luck
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