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writes:Sometime ago I asked for your advice in relation to a single father of twins who works part time at his families hairdressers. I felt his sister was pushing us. His mother is very nice to me and my son.You all suggested that I make a move to try and get to know him.Yesterday I went and had my hair done and I was asking my hairdresser whether she need anywhere that did music instrument lessons like a community place. She had already stated she sings!She said to me that Junior knows (thats the guy I admire). I had already given her my number but then picked it up ad gave it to him. He had already told me where the knows but not much detail. I asked him to let me know more and gave him my card that I had given him.He looked a little uncomfortable and I feel really embarassed now. He knows my child's father well who is a musician and is probably wondering why dont I ask him. We are at a logger head at the moment and I am barely speaking to him as he is not making me happy or attempting to move the relationship on. I need to speak to my child's father but I am finding it hard to make the move. I hate being on my own but I do not want to lose a chance as this guy is like me. He teaches and he owns his own property and is bringing up children alone.Do let me know whether I have embarassed myself. I now feel like I have thown myself at him and he probably wont make contact.Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust an update. I was back at the hairdressers and this guy I felt was a little off with me. I walked in and said hello. He looked really nice and I commented on the way he looked but he was in mid flow conversation with an older women and I felt he gave me a weird look. We can off avoided each other. I feel I have really spoilt things and made him feel uncomfortable. He was cuddling his daughter and I glimpst him looking at me. I was tempting to speak to him but Could not find the right opportunity and probably would not have done that day as I was feeling a little delicate.
My b/f is trying it only but I feel it is only sex. I want a more committed relationship and I got quite angry with him resently.
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reader, 48years +, writes (25 January 2009):
 The only person who can make you feel embarrassed is you. Try thinking of it as a social experiment - change the way you think about what you did. Lighten it up in your mind. You did not do a terrible or weird thing.
Let it go, and ease your mind. Imagine that someone else did it, would you think it was a big deal?
As for chasing men, I am against it - it lowers your value. But I think I'm in the minority on this.
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