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writes:i am not sure if i have depression, i feel really down all the time like there is nothing worth while in my life,i feel useless in evrything and a string of bad luck lately has added to that.my mum has been taken into hospital and may now need a carer, my boyfriend dumped me suddenly with no explanation and on the rebound I had a one night stand - the result of which might have left me pregnant. also i think i might have a problem with food. i feel guilty whenever i eat anything and i am still eating but gradually the amounts are getting smaller and i feel achievement when I have missed meals and i am losing weight. i find myself crying all the time and have no motivation and avoid seeing people, i dont know who to get help from.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): you poor girl, this is what is known as "life" sometimes it's sweet and sometimes it's bitter,....you are going through the bitter phase right now, your first priority is to yourself, see your g.p. and explain everything to them, you are going to grind yourself into the ground if you don't eat properly, your unborn will be affected, you don't say how far on you are, it may be better to get a termination, than to bring the child up in desperate circumstances, if any pro life people are reading this then i'm sorry, in my opinion a woman comes first not the baby, you can make more babies in your future, you need to get your present circumstances under your influence and nobody elses, it's....your life, and only you can live it ! i used to work as a male nurse in theatres that did abortions, not pleasent work, but all these years later, to me, the mother still comes first. secondly,a bit of advice, get tough ! don't accept what you are offered by your circumstances at present, believe that time can only bring better things ....."nothing".......is set in stone, you have the ability to look in a mirror and say " i'm not having it", i sincerely hope your mother is not as bad as it seems at present, if she is then thats what social services are for, in the end we all have to care for each other. if you are too far on, and decide to keep the baby then the father needs to be introduced to his new responsibility, my personal opinion is if you are within safety limits re, termination get it done, it's little spirit will come round for re-birth again. don't live your life for other people....live it for yourself, you simply must see a health care professional as a matter of urgency, and the first line is your g.p. whatever your decision, my kind thoughts and positiveness is sent to you, you are one of creations children, be gentle on yourself.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (15 December 2007):
 Hi,
I'm sorry so many tough things happened to you recently. It is perfectly normal to feel very low in your situation. I agree very much with starfairy about bringing up also the positive sides of things, easy to say hard to do, i know, but that could give you the energy you need to be able to look upon these things in a clear and practical way to find the best solution for you. Councelling can also be a good thing even if you wouldn't be depressed in a clinical way, and could offer you an additional help to sort out your thoughts and feelings about how to best deal with the difficulties you are currently facing.
I wish you all the best, keep us posting how it goes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): You can't be missing meals if you're pregnant. If you're going to keep the baby, you need to be eating every meal and not cutting down on portions. I'm pregnant and I have a 8 month old, and trust me, if you don't eat you will get sick and pass out. Your body is working so much harder especially after 4 months along. Things will get better, I know it sounds cliche but it's true. You have ahd bad luck lately, but could it get much worse? The only way to go is up.
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (15 December 2007):
im not sure if your depressed or not but enough bad situations to depress anyone. This is a good place to come for help, i often dont feel happy and come here to communicate with people who have problems like mine.Ive felt many times like im leading a worthless life, i still do at times.
You should consult a doctor about the possible pregnancy and eating problem, thats step one to improving your life. Diet affects your mood, i feel more depressed when i eat lots junk food, also when im depressed, i want to eat junk food, a bad diet has a bad effect on your mental health. I dont know what effect eating less has but i would guess it leads to tiredness due to a lack of energy. being happy takes energy and maybe the opposite is true.
i know the feeling of wanting to avoid people, your not happy enough and you lack the energy to make small talk so you just pretend you dont see them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): Please seek help from your doctor, they may beable to provide you with someone to talk to or even madication. These signs sound like that of classic depression and you have been unfortunate for this to be accelerated by a spat of misfortune.
Take care of your self and make your appointment asap.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (15 December 2007):
 It might not be depression as such, you might just be feeling low because of all the bad luck you have had recently.You need to concentrate on the positive sides of things. At least your Mom is still around, your boyfriend probably wasn;t worth it if he's that kind of guy to just up and leave suddenly, the pregnancy (if you in fact are) isn't the end of the world. And as for the food, if you think this early on you have a problem you are halfway there to solving it. Food is a great way of control, especially as you must feel like you have no control over what has happened to you in the past little while. If you think you might be developing a serious habit, and you must also think about the baby who will need nuitrients, then you should see your doctor about getting some help.You should look into counselling, most of the time you feel so much better simply having someone to vent to.
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