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writes:hi i am a girl who is 16years old. i am not so goodlooking as others are in my college. i feel disgusted and it irritates a lot when i see goodlooking people around me. girls tease boys with my name. it feels so embarrassing that they use name to tease guys so that they feel insulted. i don't really understand why this happens to me. it feels like its a curse being ugly in the class. give me some suggestions that how can i improve my personality? thanx......... Reply to this Question
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reader, Kassi (Nova)  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 Oh honey. I wish I could do something to make you feel better. I don't know what you look like, but in my lifetime I have seen very few genuinely ugly people. And you know what? Even though they weren't physically attractive, they were really great people. Anyone too shallow to be willing to find that out isn't worth your time.
You're 16. You're still developing, still figuring yourself out. Kids will call you ugly just because it's the one thing you can't really change- your body is your body. Most of the time, it isn't true, and even if you're awkward right now, you'll grow into it eventually. It's normal to feel the way you do. Heck, I'm 24 and sometimes I still feel that way.
I was not the prettiest in school. I was the tallest girl in my school. I towered over all of the boys, and I was overweight then. I was awkward, and boys never had crushes on me- they were just really good friends. That didn't last forever, and I realized I was lucky not to have been stuck with some loser boyfriend in high school. I made friends who liked me for who I really am. And that also kept me from making friends who only cared about my looks when men started telling me I was beautiful.
Concentrate on liking yourself. It's hard not to fit in, but eventually you'll figure out that the kids that do fit in are pretty boring, and usually pretty stupid, too. Be yourself, don't apologize. If you must change something, talk to your parents, and ask them if it's okay to buy clothes that are more like the ones the popular kids wear. At least for now, it will be one less thing that stands out and makes you feel bad about yourself.
It'll get better. :)
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