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writes:I have been out on a couple of dates with a man I really like. He asked me out both times and on both occasions I have had a great time (and he has told me he did too).The problem is that in between dates he is really bad at keeping in touch. He doesn't always reply back to my texts and when he does reply it can sometimes take him a day to respond! This makes me feel really anxious.When we are together he tells me how much he likes me but I am wondering if his lack of texting is an indication that he's not that into me.I know he is very busy. He works long unsociable hours, is renovating his house, has two ex-wives and five children (the most recent ex and the children live next door!).Am I reading too much into the texting thing as it all seems really good when we are face to face or should I take this as a sign of disinterest and walk away now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Yeah he's just busy. He's clearly into you by the sounds of your dates and he has even told you face to face. Send him a quick good morning have a nice day text. Men love that. Dont be anxious if he doesnt respond, his actions indicate otherwise that he is interested. Good luck :)
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 Ya, you're reading too much in to this. Two exes, five kids, a job? Yep, he's a busy guy. If you think there's chemistry there then work with it, but don't scare him off by expecting him to be in contact x times a day or within x minutes of a text from you. You'll just run him off by seeming needy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Hi there, I'd say he isn't in to texting but he may be in to you. The thing is though is if you did get in to a proper relationship with him this won't change his lack of texting. You have to ask yourself if regular communication (by phone, text, email etc) is important to you in a relationship? If it is, then this may not be the fella for you. My boyfriend has a habit of not texting me when he's out for the evening and I won't hear anything until the next day. It's so annoying and we've argued about it too many times now and he still doesn't get it. I didn't realise regular communication was so important to me but it is. Also I must point out to you that this guy you've met seems to have a lot of baggage with the exes and kids. You sure you're up for getting immersed in his past and the inevitable drama it brings? It might get draining for you. Always trust your instincts as that's all you have at the end of the day. Good luck whatever you decide!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Is he dating to have a relationship or is he dating just to date? there is a big difference. Not all guys date because they want something serious or exclusive but you can assume most women do.
They usually let you know from the start they don't from their excuses such as: they have a lot going on at the moment, talk about their divorce a lot, talk about how they are in transition and so on. Some will even be honest and say they aren't ready for a relationship.
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