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writes:i feel so bad and stupid. i love my boyfriend and he loves me. i came across an email of his and found out a lil bout his past. now i can't stop reading his emails and i feel horrible. he never really told me he was in love before, but i found out otherwise. i asked him and he said he was but he doesnt want to talk about it. from what i read was he was much more sensitive than he is with me and poured out his feelings to this other girl.he doesn't necessarily do that with me and now i feel like shit. now i feel like he doesnt really love me. he also told me if i really wanted to know to call up his best friend who is like a sister to him and ask her, but i havent even met her. i am so confused. wat do i do? i feel horrible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your positive responses. i feel like an ass for going through the emails, i guess it's like a car wreck you know you shouldn't keep looking at but you do. all i know is that he wasn't in a relationship with the girl, but he did love her. its confusing cause he won't talk about the past.
i hear that he loves me and he treats me good, but i never get those sweet notes or music that reminds him of me. was he so hurt that he can't surprise me with something. i know he doesnt have much money going to school and all, but isnt there something...i guess i dont know what i want. maybe i'm just waiting to get hurt again or maybe i watch too many movies.
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (24 November 2008):
 The first thing to do would be to calm down and take a deep breath. The second would be to sit down and read this lol. If he was in love before, then it was more likely than not, his first love. If he doesn't want to talk about it then there must have been a rough break up. When guys are young and new at love they often pour out feelings. But I'm guessing if he was hurt in a past relationship that he would now tend to keep some feelings suppressed, maybe so he wont hurt if anything ever happens between u two. But if he says he loves you then he probably does. And you really shouldn't have been reading his e-mails, lol. But I'm sure he loves you. Don't doubt him or you will find yourself subconsciously pushing him away and then there will be a problem. Just relax, he really does love you.
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