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female
age
41-50,
*licia
writes:Im in a long distance relationship with a man i met 4 years ago.We agreed tha text messages and calls were ok and we'd c eachother when we can. Lately i feel like he couldnt care less if i was in his life or not.I seem to be makin morn effort with the txts than him and when i go and visit him he wants 2 c me once and then the rest of the time i battle to get him 2 spend time with me.In two weeks im always the one nagging to c him and not the other way around.Im starting 2 feel like he wouldnt care if i left and would never move mountains 4 me and he definately gets bored with me.Shouldnt we be spending as much time as we can in the two weeks? Am i overeacting?What should i do?Plz help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Do you think he knows how you feel about this? Perhaps you could try and tell him what you have said here. Maybe he doesn't realise what is happening.
But if he just genuinely doesn't seem bothered, then do you want to carry on in this situation? What are you getting out of it? If you was to decide that you had had enough, how would your life be different? Would it be worse without him? It just seems like he is bringing you some unhappiness, and I wonder whether you would have anything to lose by saying goodbye and finding someone who would love to spend time with you.
Ultimately, this is your decision to make. So try talking to him about it, and if that doesn't get you anywhere...will you stay in the situation and hope he will change? Or will you decide that enough is enough and move on?
Good look with your decision, whatever it may be. x
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