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writes:Hey Cupids,Why cant I just let go!Even through my ex walked all over my heart and totally took my feelings for granted I still think about her all the time and am fighting the urge to pick up the phone and call her! I have the possibility of visiting her in a couple of days and I know i'll be struggling not to knock on her door. I know she's bad for me, but for the few hours of happiness, I am almost willing to put up with the pain of rejection that I know will follow! Why do I feel such a strong urge to call or contact her! I feel like an addict after a temporary 'fix' just to mask or anesthetize my feelings of aloneness, She left me totally hearbroken but yet I still want to be with her it makes no sense! We have been 'together' on and off for the past 5/6 months, i have always been clear with my feelings towards her and they have never changed, on the other hand she can flip one week to the next. The constant get together/breakup cycle is tearing my heart to shreds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): I am sorry you are going through this. You deserve better. It would be best that you spend some time alone and learn to do things that make you happy. When you can be happy alone and are clear about the way you want and deserve to be treated have another go at it with her or someone new but do not allow another to treat you this way. good luck
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reader, JustaGuy +, writes (29 October 2007):
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Sex i think is part of the answer yes, although I dont see her as a trophy girlfriend. I am guilty of running back to her, although its only because she gives me false hope 'this time will be different'. I am going to try my best to make a clean break :)
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reader, shania +, writes (28 October 2007):
 This is no good,how can you have a proper relationship with anyone else,if you keep running back to her........and she knows it.This woman sounds imbalanced and you cant let go. I suggest you cut all contact with her,that means no emails,no txt messages and no phone calls. You have to delete her number off your phone because you will never make the break....she's no good for you....she clicks her fingers,and you keep running. Break this cycle now...Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): Just so you know I have kind of been on the other end. I was with my ex-fiance for a year, and broke up with him numerous times because I knew he was bad for me. I wasn't crazy, and I wasn't trying to manipulate him. The only reason I kept going back was because he made me feel so guilty if I didn't. Don't get me wrong, I did love him, he just wasn't nice to me. I always wished that he would just let me go. One night he threatened suicide over the phone when I tried to break up with him, so I obviously didn't go through with it because I was afraid of what he might do. Do you cling on? Do you beg for her back? Or, does she always come back to you on her own? It just doesn't sound healthy, as my relationship was, and as hard as it is to not be with him anymore because he wasn't healthy for me, I know in the long run I will be much happier without him, just as you will be without her.
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