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writes: help, im really annoyed,and frustrated, im 22yrs old, yes i am still starting my life, when i finished school i went to work with my folks straight away, as i felt that i wanted to work and earn myself a living, right, that didn't exactly work out. Im working with them, have no college education, 4yrs down the line from when i finished school i feel stupid, and useless, ive got experience from working with them and that no one can take away frm me, but thats only experience, i have no fancy diploma, or certificate to show that i have a qualified education. I want to get out of the business but my folks make me feel that i wont make it without them and that i wont be anyone, they make me feel as though the only way to be a success is to be your own boss, I have been so unhappy, i have no social life, and i want to try other things and work in other places, I want to travel overseas but i have no qualifications, what will i find? if i get there and say i had my own business they'll doubt me, and even laugh at me, i feel uesless and angry that i never went out and did things and angry that my folks for holding me back and making me feel worthless, and stupid.I feel as thou i have no confidence and that ill be judged for not having any well renouned qualifications, please help, i need some encouragement, i cant get that from my folks as they only shower me with negativity that I wont make it in life. please help.
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reader, watrbot +, writes (18 December 2005):
You don't need a fancy diploma to make yourself feel worthy. But, if you want a college education I say go for it. I'm 30 years old and I am a single mom and I am currently going to college. It's a good experience. If you want to go out and see the world, go see it. You are still young and you can do anything you set your mind to. Believe me, I'm there. You can make it.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (18 December 2005):
 Hi dear, you are definetly not a failure. count the things u have achieved so far. Firstly u have a high sch cert there are so many people that dont have that. second u have been able to acquire alot of experience even though u havent got a college degree that counts believe me it goes into your Cv. Thirdly and finally u have parents, a home, alot of people dont have that.
Now that we have established you are definetly not a failure the next thing is for you to go for what u want. U are obviously miserable where u are now so u have to fight hard and struggle to get to your dream. If u desire is to go to college then start sending applications. when your parents know u are serious and have been accepted in college then they will let u go. The same thing happened to me my dear so i understand. my parents were totally against me having a phD and there didnt understand that my passions for research. so was my ex-bf. But i struggle hard for it and they accepted later.
You have to be very diplomatic once your have applied and your acceptance come through. dont be harsh to your parents. they see things in a different view but doesnt mean they dont care. You have to persuade them that it is your dream and what u want. who knows u might even decide to go back working for them when u finish and this time u will be able to put in more into this business and improve things.
Dont worry dear just follow ur heart. U are in that stage which we have all gone through when you are reflect and hope u have achieved the best of yourself.
I will be rooting for you and u can keep us informed to let us know how things are with u.
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