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writes:Im really confused. i have a boyfriend who i have been with for three years, we have three children, 1 which is mine and two that are his, we have none together. the mother of his two sees their children one a week for a couple of hours.all of my time is devoted to the children. i feel like his babysitter. but recently a man from school has got back in touch and we had a crush on eachother all through school but nothing ever happened. i feel that im falling for him all over again when im with him im happy then i have been in three years and now my head's a mess i dont know what to do?
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reader, rcn  +, writes (22 September 2007):
 I'm not going to assist much with this. There are children involved and I don't know you well enough to affect their lives. I will tell you this though. I have two children who live with me and two who do not. The two who do not, my wife and I separated when the oldest girl was 3 and her sister was one. Since then, my oldest there is 13 and her sister 11, from 3 - 7 years old, the older one displayed aggressive behaviors toward her mom, and her moms boyfriend. Still to this day, if we argue she'll say "if you and mom were still together" for close to 8 years she was suffering from a (divorce child's) disorder, similar to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Well now at 13, it's taking a different form. She is now going to a doctor to be seen for Antisocial Personality Disorder. But I love her. I chose the divorce and really don't blame her for being upset. Of course not similar to your situation, I was cheated on 7 times by her before I was going to have to call it quits.
It's your decision, I just want you to think this through before you make it. If it's getting harder, take a cold shower then think it through. Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy daughters real dad isnt on the scene and has been since she was 6 months old, she is now 6 years, so she already is from a broken home.Things are getting harder its getting worse im such a mess but so is the man from my past he is still pining for his ex so are we just finding what we are missing in eachother?
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reader, rcn +, writes (19 September 2007):
Talk to your boyfriend. Nobody can tell you which way to take your heart. If you're willing to have your child grow up in a broken home for a relationship than go with it. You need to think about what you have now, compared to what you could have. You also have to look at the time it's been since you saw this person. Feelings from the past can resurface, but are they real feeling or just how you felt in the past. Sometimes getting back together with an old crush, proves to us the crush should have stayed in the past. People change, personalities and habits change and what we're looking for in a partner does too. Make sure your feelings are true before doing anything, or you might burn the candle at both ends and end up with nothing.
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