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writes:hey, jus wanted to know im 20 years old and have just got my 1st gf, my girfriend has 2 other guys 1 for 2months n one for 2wks both cheated on her,the 2wk realationship wos more of a physical relationship which bothered me slightly, shes also had a fling and she has kissed a couple of random guys in clubs,i have only ever kissed one girl properly before i got with my gf, we've been together for 3months now and i feel comfortable around n she feels the same i am always laughin n smiling around her.Shes been the most physical with me and i broke her in by fingering her, which is obivously meant to be a big thing for a girl right?? by the way, I was the first guy she let down below by finger her. i just wanted to know as she has kissed more guys n had more experience, i seem to feel quite inadequate n insecure n jealous, because i feel i have missed out in my younger days, i have this bad feeling of regret within myself i really hate this feeling n i jus want to think about the present and future and i want to forget about her past how do i do this????? and why has it effected me soo much??? help me someone plz...xxxxp.s she has told me that she has never felt like this for someone before, and she ws sayin she has given me her heart?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): hey dude, i can't help ya but im in exactly the same situation, i've never kissed a girl or anything before, but shes been fingered n handjobbed n bloody everything except intercourse/oral...i love her but im just so jealous and think ive missed out too, i feel like finding all those guys that have done those things too her and just ripping em to pieces...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): What are you worrying about and spoiling what you have. You are doing just great so stop beating yourself up and enjoy it all. Everyone has a past and hers is nothing, so stop it now!!!
Take care
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (5 March 2007):
 Hi Anon. Well done your first girlfriend! Nice experience so enjoy it. Everyone has a past and she does not seem to be promiscuous or have much baggage, in fact quite the opposite so you should be proud of her. I guess maybe you feel a little insecure within yourself which makes you want to know everything about her. Don't push it, you don't own her and she still has her private life. Remember being with someone is about desire and not need. You've only been together a very short time so when you've been together longer you will get more and more intimate and comfortable with each other then you'll share more secrets. You start by telling her some of yours, if she responds, great, if not give it more time to develop. Sometimes you don't need to know about silly petty things as they don't make you feel better or any the wiser. Forget about the past and work on your future together. Take it day by day and enjoy each moment. You'll both learn more about sex and realtionships together which will be a great experience. Work a little on your self confidence and have a more proactive approach. Look at all the positive things you've done in your life and how you can support her better and not question things she does or has done. You obviously have something special as she's chosen to be with you! I'm sure you'll do great. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Hey!! It sounds to me like you have a really good relationship going on here!!
I can give you a girls point of view....
There is a lot of per pressure to kiss boys and things in highschool, and college and a lot of girls (myself included) have dont things with people, simply so that they dont seem so innocent and nieve, and because "everybodys doing it!" its a bad reason, but there it is.
Then you meet someone, and all of a sudden all the physical stuff youve dont in the past makes sense, because you really want to do it and its about feelings and love and really really liking someone else, not just about "doing it".
It sounds to me like this is what you are looking at with her.
So try to focus on the fact that you are the first person to touch her in the new ways, and focus on all the things you guys have together, and realise that you are both having LOADS of new experiences together, and dont worry about the past.
Honestly, for a girl, its the emotions that matter not the physical, so.... it looks like you have nothing to worry about in that respect.
And do what feels right and comes naturally, and dont worry about experience!!!
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