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writes:I've been in a reltionship with my boyfriend for 4 months. We love each other very much, and I am completely open with him. His last relationship was with a girl that lasted 2 years, and they were engaged. He told me he broke up with her because he didn't see her for two months and when he saw her again things didn't seem right. I recently saw a picture of her, and I feel really inadequate. She has a massive house and several cars had a house in Italy. And I don't have a car, or a big house or anything. I just feel so down because of this. Am I just being silly?
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reader, cd206 +, writes (24 January 2007):
 You're being silly because material things don;t matter. It's the type of person you are that matters to your boyfriend, and if he thought she was a more worthwhile person chances are he'd still be with her.
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reader, SweetSixteen +, writes (23 January 2007):
 in a way you are just being silly. so what shes got a car and a big house but that don't mean ought. i know 2 years may seem like a long time to you but he'd still be with her if he really liked her.stop thinking your not worth it everyone is worth something to someone and maybe she meant nothing to him in the end and now you mean everything to him. he wouldn't be with you now if all he wanted was a nice car and big house. give yourself more respect than to think your not worth it cos u are. and give him more credit to think his not tht shallow
remember everything happens for a reasson
Hope i helped SweetSixteen!
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (23 January 2007):
 Hey, don't feel bad. He's with you now. He dumped her for a reason. I'm sure there are loads of good qualities about you that he couldn't find in her. and I'm pretty sure your boyfriend isn't shallow enough to date someone because of the material things they posses, so that explains why he's with you. You don't need a fancy car and a big house to make yourself happy or your boyfriend. So don't worry about it. Appreciate yourself and don't let anyone make you feel inadequate.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (23 January 2007):
 Hi
No your not being silly, its perfectly understandable. My brother went out with a model. She was a really nice person, and all the family liked her. But for one thing or another, it didn't work out.
Then he met his wife. She was not as good looking and a lot shorter, and has the same weight problems as me, (normal), we go up, we go down, but what a personality. Anyway the first day he introduced her to the famiy, she was very nervous.
She need'nt have been, she is so lovely, and we all adore her, as does my brother.
So you see, it dosn't matter what you have, or how you look, what matter's is that he loves you.
As they said in Bridget Jones
HE LIKES YOU, JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.
Be happy honey, XX
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (23 January 2007):
 I can understand why you feel the way you do, but it's not right.
Let's have a look at reality: He dumped miss "massive-house-and-fancy-cars" because something wasn't right with her.
You write that the two of you love each other very much, so please don't think that you need to be filthy rich for him to love you. You're fine the way you are (and being in love is a treasure in itself).
Just straighten your back and smile, don't let a photo of his ex get you down.
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