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writes:hey..im kind of new here but there is a question i gotta ask to solve cause i feel so painful..I fell in love with a guy and that guy happened to be my "Bestest sister in the world"'s boyfriend.Can someone help me? Tell me what to do?! Im really confused and stuff,cause i feel like i really shouldnt be in love with him. But I cant help thinking about him! Can someone help me to get out of this love thing?? I really dont want to spoil me and my Best Friend's relationship. And the thing is everytime both of them goes out, my best friend would drag me out with them and i am like trapped between my feelings about that guy and me and my best friend's relationship. I am feeling really very tired and stressed about this. I've told no one cause i dont really have a friend that can keep secrets. I would cry every now and then i think of him. Cause i would feel guilty about thinking of him and always having those images in my head where i am going out on a date with him! I can't stop it but i really want to!Cause it feels like i'm betraying my best friend!! I've went to search some answers in the net but most of them says avoiding contact with that guy would be the best solution. But if i avoid him and stuff my best friend and her boyfriend would get suspicious. And to make it worse, i think that guy treats me as one of his best friends.What should i do?? Can someone help me to stop loving this guy? I about to explode with all these questions and feelings in my head!! Help?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): don't do anything with that guy. he will only be in your life for a bit. then you would have lost your BF forever over a guy. guys come and go as well as woman do for men.so think about what you are doing and stay away for her man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Hey there hun. You are being really hard on yourself. You cant help who you fall inlove with so don't beat yourself up over it. You havent betrayed your sister by falling for her boyfriend, it is what you do next that demonstrates your loyalty towards her.
You say you want to stop loving him but if you stay away they will suspect something?
How do you feel you will disolve the pain that you are feeling and what other solutions have you got?
You need to explain to your sister that 'three is a crowd' and cut back on the time that you spend with them both. If this is not possible then maybe you need to bring another person into the picture to make the circumstances more even. Four people instead of three.
You also need to work on your own life and meet new people so that you dont have to spend as much time with them both.
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